Post # 1
This is something I can never understand. So I am wondering, why do YOU have assigned seating and not allow people to sit wherever they choose? I am not against it or anything, I just don’t understand it.
Post # 3
Well, I went to a wedding that didn’t have one, and at first I thought- oh, cool. But then it felt awkward finding a seat and deciding who to sit with. Feeling like you aren’t sure what to do. So I think having a seating chart takes the anxiety out of the situation for the guests. Also, if you have family members who don’t get along, good to make sure they are separated etc. But maybe that’s just me. It does seem like lots of work though doesn’t it?
Post # 4
Muse are serving a plated dinner and our guests had 3 options to pick from. We needed to know how many of each option go to each table.
Post # 5
There are a couple of reasons
1) You have a limited number of seats- its entirely possible that the last sets of couples entering the reception would be unable to find seats at the same table. (me and my friends sit 5 at a table for 6, your aunts sit 5 at a table for 6 etc) If I couldn’t sit with my SO at a wedding I would be pissed.
2) Seating charts prevent awkwardness. If I’m your friend from work, neighbor, or cousin I may not know most of the people at your reception, or I may know your family but not fiances. A lot of people aren’t comfortable walking up to a table of strangers and taking a seat. With a seating chart they know where to go, without they are kinda lost.
3) If you are serving a plated dinner that your guests pre selected thier entree, your caterer may need a seating chart to be able to get food out quickly.
If it seems really overwhelming, there are apps that can help you do it, or you can go with the paper plate and post it note method.
There are definitly weddings that you don’t need one- like you are only serving light appetizers, cake and drinks, so guests will be mingling more then sitting or something like that.
Post # 6
I am having 2 charts- one in alphabetical order and one as per seating arrangements (I expect everyone to arrive at the same time after pre-drinks). I’m having them just to make it easier for our guests. I had to sit next to FMIL at our engagement party and was so disappointed because I wanted to sit with my friends. She’s a difficult woman to place. I really just think its easier and avoids unnecessary confusion. I’ve heard of lots of awkward situations when there’s no allocated seating but not many when assigned a seat or at least a table.
Post # 7
We didn’t assign seats, but did assign tables. We had faith that all of the adults we invited would be mature enough to pick a seat at a table and adjust seats as needed for couples that wanted to sit together, but there were a lot of reasons we assigned tables. @nikkialys: covered all of the reasons that we had for doing so!
Post # 8
We didn’t have one but we had a small wedding and everyone knew each other. But if you were having a large weding it would be awkward and a logistical nightmare not to have one I think. People would scramble for the tables close to the B&G and you would end up with odd seats unless everyone invited was given a plus one and actually brought them.
Post # 9
@WineAndCupcakes: Thanks, this does make the most sense to me. I understood this the most.
I just think with everyone being adults and stuff If there were two of you, and you were with your SO, it wouldn’t be rude to ask someone to move over a seat so you and he/she could sit together, I would. But I am never akward in situations. I am who I am… LOL
Thanks everyone for answering, Miss Godiva, I love this idea! And it makes the most sense to me:)
Post # 10
@MrsPaulsBabyBallerina: This. As well as the fact that the family usually sits together, you can group people together who know each other, and it saves time for people so they don’t have to awkwardly walk around looking for someone to sit with!
Post # 11
@nikkialys: said it perfectly!
Bottom line is, more often than not, not assigning at least a table just ends very awkwardly.
Post # 12
It’s especially awkward if you’re shy or don’t know many people. Seating charts also make things much quicker and simpler.
Post # 13
I’m not assigning a seating chart, or seating table, but mostly because I don’t know who would want to sit with who. My family is large, as is FI’s, and they all like to socialize with each other. So I’ll let them decide. My venue is also outside, and they are going to be scattered around round tables so they’ll pretty much be able to see everyone anyway.
Post # 14
I don’t plan to have one. It’s a small wedding with just family and a few best friends, and they will be setting up an extra 2 tables. If everyone can figure out where to sit at a family BBQ without a seating chart, they can figure it out at the wedding.
Post # 15
We didn’t have one and now I kind of wish we had. Four of my work friends wanted to sit together and they wound up deciding to eat at a cocktail table because there were only 2 and 2 at various tables. I think weddingwire.com has a good guest list/seating chart tool.
Post # 16
I’m not having one. It’s not common in my area, and in my ‘social’ stream. I also got too much lack from my mom for wanting one. It wasn’t a battle I was willing to fight, so I dropped it. I can understand why though. I’ve always felt awkward as a guest finding a seat. Instead of a chart I mad everyone escort cards to put on their seat to ‘save’ it.