Post # 1
hi sorry about my english , is not perfect
im 25 and he is 27
I’v been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years and we are living together for 2 years.
our relationship is great, we share lot of things, we are financially stable, and we have a great apt. he sometimes talk about marriage and told me that I will be the woman next to him forever. all of our friends are married now and when they asked him why you too dont get married he just says “what is the rush”.
I dont know why but sometimes I feel that he is not sure if I am the one. Our hooby is travel, last year he take me to new york, las bahamas, and las vegas and I was really excited with the idea that he was going to proposed in one of the travels but nothing happend.
at the begining when we moved together he refers to me as his wife in public but not anymore he stop doing that and now I his girldfriend for everybody.
I am really scared that he take me for granted because we are living like a married couple but I will love to be his wife! I want to make it official
do you think im too rushed with this?
Post # 3
I think that you should voice your concerns to him and see how he reacts. It doesn’t mean that you have to “rush” into things, but at least you will know where you stand in your relationship and possibly get a timelne from him.
Post # 4
I don’t know if you need to bring it up. He’s made it pretty clear through his actions that he feels comfortable.
What especially gets me is that he says “what is the rush” in front of you (or to people that he must know would repeat it to you). That and he doesn’t call you his wife any more… those are pretty clear signs that he’s comfortable.
I think he’s not going to make any changes until he’s snapped out of his comfort zone… not sure the best way to do that, but I’m guessing you probably have some ideas!
Post # 5
im a take charge kinda gal so i would be setting him a timeline on what i would require for the relationship to continue
for me planning a wedding & reception isnt important, getting married is so i would say to him that by this date (insert date here) i would like us to be married. if he feels that he cant comply with that date, whats his negotiated alternative?
problem with this is you have to have a backup plan – meaning if the date comes and goes then for me, the relationship will be over because as it is now, hes getting everything involved in having a wife but not committing to the wife bit
but this is me – im a do as i say kinda gal and fortunately i have a hubby that is very easy going
my advise to my single friends in relationship that are not progressing is why commit another 5yrs to him – you will only be 5yrs older and no where closer to the marriage & family that they hope for
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Post # 7
I dont see why you should rush. It’s only been 2 years and you guys are still young. If you really are sure he is the one for you…def talk to him and let him know you want to be married by a certain time. If he cant commit.. then you should really think about is he really worth the wait or not. It’s not about wether how long youve dated and that your time is ticking. You should really be sure that he’s the one. And if he says that he wants to get married to you “someday” i say.. you move out until he realized that he needs you asap. By you two living together I THINK doesnt really help.. he’s too comfortable and its like you’re married…but without a commitment.