Post # 1
The title may sound stupid but I honestly would like to hear what bees have to say about this! Please share your thoughts and observation.
Here’s the story in case you are not familiar with it. Basically Hefner was saying he wasn’t a marrying kind while he was with Holly (for 7 years!!!). He pop’d the question to the new girl after about a year or less of dating.
This news kid of upset me as a waiting bee…
Also it didn’t help that last weekend Boyfriend or Best Friend and I hang out with his friend and his live-in girl friend of almost 10 years(!!!). The guy is 28 and his girlfriend is 4-5 years older. NOT getting younger for sure. I had to ask the guy how the hell he’s keeping her waiting… He was like, For what, She GOT me, no pressure. I was like Really? And then the girlfriend came, the guy mentions that I asked this. She says I’m not pressuring you or anything!” then says “I don’t see the point of getting married.” Ok, if it works for you two, great… After Boyfriend or Best Friend and I came home, I had to comment that I didn’t understand where they were coming from, that I was surprised that she said she didn’t see the point of… I just don’t see the point of NOT getting married when they are practically living like a married couple, for many many years.
My Boyfriend or Best Friend said she looked annoyed when the guy brought it up and that was the only time she looked annoyed. He says she honestly does want to get married but doesn’t say, or at least part of her does, but the guy probably, simply doesn’t. Yet. Or whatever…
Hmm… things are really confusing me.
Post # 3
Sadly I love Girls Next Door, Holly’s World, etc. so I have my own opinion about this. I feel like when Holly left, Hef probably realized how stupid he was being by not settling down and thought he missed out on something good. By the time she was gone in Vegas dating other guys, he was too late. So he’s probably not making that same mistake again.
Post # 4
I think Hef is probably realizing that his time left on this earth is probably short and he wants to take advantage of getting married again while he can.
Post # 5
That story pissed me off so much! I’d be spitting mad if I was Holly. I didn’t read that story you have, but he was still legally married (separated) to his ex-wife for 11 years while he was dating Holly & then within months of being with the other girl he finalized the divorce. W. T. F.
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Post # 7
I liked Holly on the Girls Next Door, and I kind of felt bad for her about all this, but I really think it supports the notion that sometimes you really just have to read the actions more than the words….
Apparently, it’s not that he didn’t want to get married; it’s that he didn’t want to marry Holly.
Post # 8
@gramgeek: That thing you said about your friends, I have noticed that too. Usually the guy doesn’t want to get married. Could be any number of reasons…. doesn’t want to give up the ‘freedom’ to walk away, doesn’t want to spend on a wedding, feels that marriage is too old-school and we don’t need it anymore to profess our love to each other, etc. And at some point he really, REALLY convinced the girl of this. And she has had to suck it up and believe in the same thing as him just so she does not lose him. He may be a MOST WONDERFUL man ever and she doesn’t want to lose him just over something so ‘trivial’ as marriage. He might be the kind who will never ever cheat, lie, steal, upset her, etc. except for not wanting this ONE thing.
I think you kinda hit a nerve with the girl when you brought it up. If I were you, I would have brought it up sooner or later as well. Sometimes certain things need to be said. Just to keep from hurting other people’s feelings, sometimes you end up hurting them MORE than had you done the former.
Post # 9
She should have left him… a long time ago. She stayed in the same house with the man for goodness sake…somewhere in between her room and his bed… THIS MARRIAGE AND CHILDREN conversation should have come up. And she shouldn’t have thought she could change the man…once she realized they were on different sheets of music SHE SHOULD HAVE LEFT. Hats off to her. And forget who he marries… its water under the bridge. She allowed him not to divorce his other wife (have cake and eat it too)…maybe the new girl got more of a backbone and aint taking that crap.
Post # 10
@Amaryllis: Apparently, it’s not that he didn’t want to get married; it’s that he didn’t want to marry Holly.
It’s harsh, but I think if more women considered that this might be a possibility, there’d be less waiting and more marrying going on.
Post # 11