Post # 1
I have decided not to send Save the Dates for one main reason…alot of times when I read about wedding invitation issues, save the dates were sent to people you no longer like/want to invite.
I am having an 80 person wedding and I decided not to do STD because I don’t want to risk sending someone it 6-8 months out, having something happen or change my mind and wish I didn’t send them one and then feeling obligated to invite someone I don’t want to.
What’s your take on this?
Post # 3
Sounds reasonable. If it’s a local wedding, it’s easier to pull that off IMO. But for a destination wedding, it’s nicer to give people as much lead time as possible to make travel arrangements.
Post # 4
@MadameTussaud: It is a local wedding and the only travelling is family members who know they are invited anyways.
Post # 5
I always saw Save the Dates as being used for destination weddings. That way, guests would have the extra time to save money for the day or book off the extra time for work.
If the wedding is just a regular wedding, I don’t see the point.
Post # 6
Just make sure all of your close family and friends KNOW the date this early on so they don’t make plans!
Post # 7
If that works for you, then stick with it. It wouldn’t work for me because there’s more OOTs than locals and they need time to plan and budget.
Post # 8
I think save the dates are a relatively recent phenomenon anyways. In the decades before us, they didnt really send out Save-The-Date Cards so I see no reason you should have to now if you don’t want to.
Post # 9
I think, especially if you choose a long weekend or if its during the summer time, Save The Dates are fantastic. We received an invite late last month for August and i was super anxious to get it because i did not know the date and our summers book up fast. I would have been rather annoyed if i had to completely rearrange holidays to make sure i could attend.
So thats why i think they are a good idea for some.
Post # 10
Yeah, we’re sending them out because probably 80% of our guest list is Out of Town, it’s in the summer, and people who are invited can stop asking me when the wedding is.
Post # 11
Most of my guest list is Out of Town, so I wanted to invite people to make sure they could come. If it were local, then I wouldn’t worry quite as much.
Post # 12
Just don’t forget the converse of this: people you *do* like might not be able to come because they didn’t get enough notice. I’ve gotten frustrated with friends who told us six weeks or a couple of months ahead of the wedding and then were dissapointed when we couldn’t make it.