- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
I thought I would share how my fiancé and I ended up choosing moissanite in case anyone is interested.
I actually was in love with diamonds and my heart was set on one from the time we first started talking about getting engaged. I love the sparkliness and whiteness of diamonds. I already have quite a few pieces of diamond jewellery, most of them rings and a couple of them solitaires. In order for my engagement ring to be special, I felt like my engagement ring would have to be “more diamondy” than the diamond rings/solitaires I already own. The research we undertook showed that we would have to part with at least $5k to even begin getting into the kind of diamond range that I felt would be special to me.
At this point I can’t say either my Fiance or I were happy with parting with such money (it’s not that we don’t have it, it’s just painful to take money from our savings that could be used towards more practical things that could benefit the both of us and our future), but still… sometimes you just have to do these things. I wasn’t happy with the extortionate mark-ups on diamonds, but it wouldn’t put us in financial turmoil, so the decision was made.
One evening we went round a friend’s house for dinner and began talking about our ring plans. Ethics are important to my Fiance and I, so we were keen to point out that we were going to go for a Canadian diamond. That’s when our friend pointed out that even diamond mining in Canada has clear ethical issues, often displacing First Nations communities, polluting the environment and disturbing the migratory paths of wildlife. At that point my face fell, both because I felt ignorant/naïve and because I knew that going for a diamond would conflict with our values after all and that there may be no sparkly clear stone in my future.
That’s when my friend mentioned how she’d been talking to her neighbour who had been looking into getting a moissanite engagement ring. Money wasn’t their issue (her Fiance is an NYC lawyer and she’s a doctor), but instead it was ethics. At home, I researched moissanite like crazy and within a few weeks went from tentatively considering it to becoming absoutely certain that that is what I wanted in my engagement ring. My Fiance agreed. Its beauty, hardness, history, price and ethical creation made it an absolute no-brainer. AND I could have the size I truly dreamed of without wincing at what its cost might take away from our future together. I went to see one in person and was sold on it even more.
So that’s our story. The ethical aspect and savings aspect for us were both huge factors in our decision making. Of course, different things are important to different people, though, and there’s nothing wrong with that. We couldn’t be more happy with my ring.