- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
…and no, it doesn’t have anything to do with who gets the final say.
The fact that FI & I will pay for anywhere from 80%-100% of the wedding expenses at first completely and utterly stressed me out. We’re both students who work part time except for during school breaks so we’re not exactly rolling in the cashflow. Trying to build, plan, and pay for a wedding that we’re both happy with on our budget would definitely not be easy and I’m sure there will be many times in the next year where I’m fit for a Xanax and he’s desperate to find somebody willing to prescribe me one.
But…I love how it’s made our relationship grow. We’ve never discussed finances or financial priorities more. We are both now fully aware of exactly what each other makes, how the other spends money, and what amount is saved every month. We constantly talk numbers, what’s worth it to us, and how to figure out this whole wedding planning business together. We’ve already moved from the “my” money and “his” money train of thought to “our” money.
What can “we” afford to do this weekend? What can “we” afford to put aside each month? What can “we” afford when we go shopping?
If anything, tackling this together has made me feel even more confident in our relationship and our ability to take on the world. And that makes me one happy lil bee
Is there anyone else that’s discovered something with wedding planning that turned out the be a blessing in disguise?