Why I'm not changing my name- and why I'm DEFINITELY not hyphenating!

posted 2 years ago in Names
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

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Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

paxie:  You have your valid reasons as to why you won’t change. That’s cool. You seemed to have been through a lot. Have you talked to your FI about it? He seems to be very understanding and will get why you want to Keep your last name.

I will be changing my last name to his. I’m actually very excited for that part. We’re not very  traditional, but with the last name thing we will be. I just like the feel of it.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I didn’t change my name and it wasn’t a big deal, at all. My husband didn’t mind and neither did his family! So don’t get all stressed out, he might nit even care!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

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Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I ended up not changing my name because of pure laziness.  No one cares, and no one has questioned me about it.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

paxie:  I agree with you completely. I have not changed my name although it is fine if people use my married name socially.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I took my husband’s last name. When we have children we all share the same last name.

The last name thing is sooo not a big deal. The decision was not hard or complex and there weren’t sveral factors that played into it. Every woman should do what feels right to them. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

Not changing my name spent way to much money on an advance degree that had my maden name on it, and as a professional I find it messy to suddenly be Ms. Y when clients have previously known me as Ms. X. Additionally, i currently have a three letter common last, very pronouncable last name. Fiancee has a 7 letter, not pronouncable last name and actually has stolen my name to use for reservations and such. Socially, i’m fine with being Mrs. Y, especially after we have kids, but no need to legally change it. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

I support you in your decision to do whatever you want with your name, but just saying, I’ve had a hyphenated name since birth and it’s really not such a struggle as you make it seem. I love my hyphenated name and I’ve never had a problem with paychecks or systems or anything like that. But maybe I’m just used to it. Anyway, glad to hear you’re happy with your decision about your name! 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I changed my last name because…I wanted to? It really wasn’t as complex as all that stuff above, though. I didn’t change it at work because I’m lazy. Glad you are happy with your decision, though!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

sarals24:  I’m a bit confused by this post-where does it say moving to marry a man she’s never met (not being snarky, seriously searched through the OP and can’t seem to locate it)?

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