Post # 1
I get a text from my MOH’s FI about this ac unit we’re selling back to her mom. I had just gotten done talking to the mom when he shoves his big nose into our business, so I texted back, “[friend]’s mom and I got it figured out. [Friend] is going to pick it up on Saturday.”
I get this text back, “This is [friend.]”
So I texted back, “Not to sound bitchy but is there a reason why you guys switch phones to talk to me sometimes? It throws me off.”
She then proceeds to text me back on her OWN phone and say, “Mine was locked in the office.” Ok, so your questions couldn’t wait 2 minutes until you got in the office? Anyway, fair enough I suppose.
BUT they have done this to me several times over the last few months, and it is getting on my nerves. I never know whether or not she is actually texting me when her name pops up on my phone. So if I want to talk to her about something girly or private, I may actually be talking to him.
Just like last night I get a text from her phone about why I named my dog what I did. Here it was him texting me. He has my freaking number. Text me under your own damn number for goodness sake or AT LEAST say, ‘hey this is [friend’s fi].” It confuses me.
Pretty soon I am going to have to stop texting her since I don’t know who I am really texting. Does anyone else’s friends do this junk? They are attached at the hip and brain so iut really shouldn’t surprise me.
Post # 3
That is super super weird. We would never do that. They only time I’ve ever texted from my FI’s phone is when he was driving and asked me to type a response to his friend that we were on our way. He’s never used my phone.
I’ve never had this happen to us either, none of our friends would do that.
Post # 4
…that is weird, we don’t do that nor do I know of anybody who does. If I EVER text someone from DH’s phone it’s because mine is dead and I’ll be like “Hi mom it’s me, just letting you know mine is dead so call DH’s if you need me”…
Post # 5
I’ve never experienced this before. If it happened often, I’d start every conversation with “Random question/thought here… BTW, is this Sue or Joe today?”
Post # 6
Yeah that is really weird…. I’m like @BookishBelle in that it is only if my phone is dead and I let them know who I am. That could potentially be embarrassing for some of my friends with the personal things they text me that they might not want my FI reading…
Post # 7
Agree with PPs – WAY freaking weird.
Post # 8
Yea, if my phone is dead or I left it at home, I’ll use SO’s phone but I’ll announce myself. That’s weird and uncomfortable, you don’t know who you’re talking to. Even if you discuss something with her, you know he’s looking through the phone and can read everything.
Post # 9
@megz06: I think they’re likely just a little more scattered, and pretty easygoing about it. It probably just doesn’t bother them, so they don’t think about the fact that it might annoy others.
Post # 10
My best friend friend in VA was absolutely terrible with her phone, and it was the world’s biggest piece of crap, so she and her FI basically shared his nice smartphone. If you wanted to talk to her, you would text his phone and basically ask for her. And if a text came from his phone, it was just as likely (if not MORE likely) to be from her as from him. I guess because it was so expected, it didn’t bother me. Then again, they didn’t both have awesome phones and just trade them for no reason — there was at least some vague rationale behind them always communicating through his phone!
Post # 11
@Duncan: Like PPs I’m ok with using DH’s phone every once in a while if I don’t have my phone, but I always make sure the person I’m texting knows I am the one doing the texting, unless I am responding for DH if he asks me to. I just find it strange that when their own phone is within arm’s reach they choose to use each other’s and pass it off the other person.
At least I know I wasn’t being silly about this as it seems it truly is weird and not a normal thing.
Post # 12
Nobody I know does that and I would probably stop texting her.
Post # 13
@iarebridezilla: Totally a rational reason. I could see that. If my friend and her FI only had one working phone it would be no big deal. And I could understand that she left her phone in the office but if she used her own phone to respond 2 minutes later then that could have waited.
Post # 14
@megz06: I’ve done this before when my phone had died in the middle of making plans, but I always start it off with hey this is blank using FI’s phone because mine died. I don’t do it often and I would be annoyed if I never knew he was texting me…very strange
Post # 15
@iarebridezilla: We have kind of a similar situation.
My SO has a pay-as-you-go plan where he pays each day he uses it. We usually plan those days so we can talk and he doesn’t use it when we’re together.
When we’re together he will use mine to text either his best friend (always announcing himself) or his dad (his dad has finally grasped this and just texts me instead if he needs SO when he knows we’ll be together).
So yeah, it can be annoying for them, I guess, but they love us and understand.
The original situation though? That’s kind of bizarre. Especially if they’re not announcing themselves.
Post # 16
FI and I “do correspondance” for each other all the time if one of us has our hands full, but it’s more like he’ll read it to me and I’ll tell him what to type. I never really thought it was a big deal.