Why is everything "wedding" so expensive?

posted 3 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Because people pay crazy money for weddings.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’ve heard that if you simply avoid telling the vendors that it’s for a wedding, the price is way lower. When renting a venue, rent it for a block of hours because you’re having an “event”. Get catering for a “party”. Same the for flowers, tableclothes, everything.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Because the industry is greedy and creates needs, and with needs come a price to pay, and people are ready to pay that price thinking it’s justified.

I am a very frugal Bee, so I tried at least to make other purchases unexpensive. There’s no real deal to be made with venues, caterers or other vendors. You try to find what you want at a price you’re comfortable with. But for all other expenses (clothing, accesories, beauty, etc.) you can CHOOSE to be more budget-conscious so it doesn’t endlessly add up. That’s really the only way I found to save on my wedding. Even if I was given 10K to spend on my wedding, I wouldn’t want to spend it. My budget is ~6K, but it has already doubled. When I got engaged, Fi and I looked at each other and said : 3K ! Reality hit hard.  But I’m confident our final numbers will be in the 5K range. I overestimated a lot of things just in case. 🙂

Post # 7
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Newbee

@CanadaMoose:  That’s actually pretty smart and I’m going to try that.

I’m trying to plan an inexpensive wedding, keeping my budget under $10,000…way under if I can help it. But when I started to list everything out, I was really pushing the budget. And I only plan on having less than 50 people in attendance! Weddings are expensive. I don’t know how or why but they are. I’m in the wrong business! Wink

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’ve tried the event card, but it doesn’t really work here. I think companies have a big budget for events and deeper pockets than consumers do. 

Also, one vendor said that she charged higher rates for weddings to reflect the cost of doing business with a typical bride – there’s more client management involved. 

So some of it is because they can and some of it is because we “insist”. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Merinda1994:  The industry knows that people give themselves a little wiggle room when it comes to weddings. It’s their “one special day” so they deserve to splurge. And so many couples fall for it too, big time. As far as our vendors knew we were simply throwing a party. That’s all they needed to know. Outside of the ceremony a wedding needn’t be anything different than a family reunion or sweet 16. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Merinda1994:  Because for vendors, weddings are a high pressure event and A LOT of hard work. They aren’t M-F 9-5 job with a weekly paycheck like most people have…..and we take our work home with us. I think we’re from close to the same area, and so as you know, our weddings run on a “season” here. We only get a limited number of months and on top of that, a limited number of days. Plus, the amount of insurance we have to cover is EXPENSIVE!!! 😉 Even still, I get you! Weddings are expensive in general, no matter the size!!! Have you guys decided on a venue yet? 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Merinda1994:  TBH I can’t think of anything that we’ve overpaid for because it’s a wedding.

Eg our catering is costing £50/$80 pp for a 3 course meal of a very high standard; if I were to take my guests to any other restaurant and buy them a 3 course meal of the same quality, I would pay around £60/$90.

Our drinks wth the meal are costing £30/$48 a head for a package of 1/2 bottle of wine, a glass of sparkling wine, and a glass of champagne. If we purchased the drinks individually, as regular customers at our venue (a hotel), the cost would be the same.

Our flowers are not costing a fortune; the bridesmaid’s bouquets are costing $40 each, mine is costing $130, and the table centres are costing between $23-40 depending on the size. I looked at doing my table-centres myself, and they would have cost roughly the same, plus I’d have had the work of putting them together.

Etc.

 

Don’t get me wrong, it is costing a lot of money; but that is because we CHOSE to spend big in certain areas, like photography. We could have got a photographer for less than a third of what we’re paying, but we chose not to. The same goes with my hair and make-up: I could have saved around $180 if I’d gone to a salon to have it done, but I wanted the convenience of someone coming to the venue, and the hair stylist and MUA I’ve chosen are very, very good, and, IMO, worth the extra money.

So in short: I personally don’t feel we’ve overpaid for anything just because it’s a wedding. 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Merinda1994:  That stinks! How long ago did you contact them? Do you have a backup venue?

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

It’s so expensive because it can be. Think about it… if you were a business and could make more money by attaching the word ‘wedding’ then you would, wouldn’t you?

We’re conditioned to think that our wedding is the day where we can be princesses and that we deserve to have it all.

Anyway, I got annoyed by it too. So much so that when I was getting my wedding hair done I lied and said it was for a party. Why the hell would I pay more for the same updo just because it was for my wedding?! Small victory lol. Of course with the venue we couldn’t get away with doing that, but we also chose a venue that fit comfortably in what we were ok with spending for a wedding. Don’t let anyone (including the wedding industry) pressure you into spending more than you’re comfortable spending.

There is a way to cut costs… we did it.

 

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