Post # 1
I’m really confused about why people stress about one of their bridesmaids telling them they’re TTC or that they’re pregnant. As long as they can order a dress that will fit them, I really don’t understand why it matters if she’s pregnant or not. Is it because she’ll have less money to participate in events, or can’t drink, or because she’ll be more tired/preoccupied or something?
PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND.
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@208bride: That particular bride wants to be the center of attention and/or “fat” bridesmaids don’t fit their vision for photos.
Post # 4
People like to fawn over pregnant women and ask them a million questions about the baby, taking the spotlight off the bride. Conversely, some pregnant women always manage to steer conversation towards their impending offspring.
Post # 5
@208bride: I didn’t really think it was a big deal…I guess some people worry that they’ll be due very close to the wedding and might not make it? (Still shouldn’t be a huge deal, uneven bridal parties don’t bother anyone) Or can’t participate if it is a newborn AT the wedding and needs constant care…
Just an insight. I don’t see the big deal though.
Post # 6
The only time I think it’s a legitimate concern is if the bm is due close to the wedding bc then she might have to drop out…
Post # 7
The only time I’ve seen this be a (legit) issue is when there are concerns that she wont be able to be at the wedding because she’s due right around that time. Other than that there is a minority of people who see their friends as accessories and are worried about them being fat or not fitting dresses or “stealing their thunder” or other equally silly things.
I think most reasonable women are not concerned about this and are thrilled about their friends becoming pregnant.
My sister was 6 months at my wedding and I couldn’t have been more excited for her. Now that my little nephew is here I’m totally obsessed with him. I think that’s MOST people’s reaction. Of course, I’ve never been starved for attention, so I didn’t look at my wedding as “the one time it would all be about me” (blah, eww).
There is always room in the world for more happy news!
Post # 8
Pregnant women are high maintence! she’s going to be tired and hormonal, she’ll probably make excuses to skip the bachelorette party or help make decorations, etc.- she has too many things going on in her own world to care about the bride’s needs. And her ankles will get swollen, she’ll probably hate standing for so long next to the bride in the ceremony and taking pictures. Plus she’s a liability- she could pop at any time during the day and steal the spotlight from the bride.
Post # 9
My future sister in law told me that I wasn’t allowed to get pregnant before her wedding beacuse she didn’t want “chubby” bridesmaids…
I, however, have no issues with having pregnant bridesmaids. My MOH is currently TTC and I do selfishly hope she doesn’t get pregnant for a few months so that she won’t have a new born at the time of my wedding.
Post # 10
Not sure if other poster is sarcastic or not…..
It’s not a big deal unless she’s super close to her due date.
Post # 11
@208bride: The only way it would ‘bother’ me is if it meant that they were no longer able to come to my wedding at all, if you’re my BM you’re obviously near and dear, not having your there would be upsetting – OR if for some reason I believed they were actively trying to steal the spotlight (I know, you get a day, not a year, but sometimes people really do try and steal any bit of attention that’s given to other people)
Post # 12
We had a little trouble finding a bridesmaids dress that would work for my bridesmaid who will be 7 months pregnant (we switched colors/designers to one that carried maternity, and found a maternity dress we both loved). But I’m super excited to have a pregnant bridesmaid, mostly because I’m happy she’s having a baby! And I’m hoping for a second pregnant bridesmaid too! 🙂
Post # 13
How am I supposed to get my wedding pics blogged if I have an uggo fatty bridesmaid, amirite?!?!?
Post # 14
Because people are speshul snowflakes who can’t handle not being Princess of the day.
Post # 15
Myself, some family, and some best friends have all gotten engaged around the same time. We all talked about babies and this situation, because pregnant women are needy (rightfully so!) and they most likely won’t be able to enjoy themselves and participate in all the wedding related things as they would if they weren’t pregnant. Not to mention trying to fit into a dress, not being able to have a few cocktails at the bachelorette party (I can’t imagine seeing a preggo chick at a bachelorette party anyway), and the wedding! Obviously, people’s lives take precedence over one day or one event, but I wouldn’t ever plan on trying to have a baby if I knew I was in someone’s wedding in the next few months.
Post # 16
@sailor_girl: LOL this is always what I think about too when people are concerned about a possibly pregnant bridesmaid …