Post # 1
Why is it so hard for people to put their differences aside for one special day? We’ve invited a couple of FH’s step-sisters and FH’s sister doesn’t like it. I’m so over this whole wedding drama, and FH is getting more and more depressed, wishing we’d never organised a whole to-do in the first place. I just hate that FH is getting so upset over this whole thing, and I feel like there isn’t anything I can do. He’s trying to talk it through with her, but I don’t think it’s going anywhere :/
Post # 3
@tiffanyscanlan: This is family…and honestly, a wedding is only going to bring drama to the surface. These attitudes are something you will deal with for the rest of your life.
Post # 4
@tiffanyscanlan: I don’t know why joy and happiness in one couple brings out the uglies in other people! It’s a mystery of the universe.
Post # 5
@searock: It shouldn’t have to be like this though!! It’s not FMiL’s day, it’s not my cousin’s day, hell, it’s not my aunty’s brother-in-law’s cat’s day, it’s OUR day! And it makes me so upset that people can’t even set aside whatever drama’s going on in their lives to help celebrate OUR love on OUR wedding day. Is that too much to ask?
I sound like a bridezilla don’t I? 🙁
Post # 6
@tiffanyscanlan: My father divorced by mum and and almost immediately remarried. For my mother it was ultimate betrayal after 20+ years of marriage. So what has my mum done at each of her children’s weddings? She put on her big girl panties and coped. And this happens at probably thousands of weddings every week: divorced couples behave, for the sake of their children.
Your FH should tell his sister that she is being ridiculuous: if divorced parents can cope with seeing each other at a wedding, then stepsisters certain can.
Post # 7
@tiffanyscanlan: maybe as an outsider she will respect you more ppl tend to behave a lil better for people who are not their direct family its terrible to say it but alot of ppl will walk all over siblings and might give u a better shake at winning them over …. perhaps say this is your wedding not her’s and its important she is their however its also importnat everyoen else is there too so tell her u would be very happy if she could let her differeances lay for one evening
let her know its to respect you she likely be ezere swayed alot of ppl push and walk all over real family
my aunt walks all over my mom and her sibs and family but is sweet as gold if anyone outside is there b.c. she likes to look good
Post # 8
@paula1248: I’ve said exactly that to him. His parents divorced and his dad remarried. For the sake of the kids, the parents keep in contact, and are civil when necessary. His sister has been told by just about everybody that she needs to stop acting like a brat (not necessarily in those words) and move on. I don’t think she thinks she’s doing anything wrong.
Post # 9
@tiffanyscanlan: Bluntly because it is your special day and no one elses.
It sucks but you can’t control other people.
Post # 10
@j_jaye: Sometimes I really wish I could… 🙁 I almost had no wedding drama and got excited about it, but then boom, this. :/