(Closed) why is it with people the RSVP 5 days before the wedding !!!!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
550 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yes I have! I have left several messages for a former coworker who had not RSVPd. I finally gave up and gave our final numbers. She called today and said she’s coming AND bringing a date. I told her that I was sorry, but it was too late to rearrange the seating chart, get another table, centerpiece, and meal for them. I had an RSVP date on the invite for a reason, folks…

Post # 4
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@catracha: If it is not too late for you to change your count, would you be willing? If it is, gently let her know you had to turn in your count, you called her numerous times, and you assumed she was not coming and you are sorry. BLAME THE VENDOR hehehe

Post # 6
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214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I guess I must just be a mean person. After the RSVP date, even if I can change the count with out a penalty I still wouldn’t. I think it is HIGHLY disrespectful that after numerous attempts to contact this person and not RSVP’ing in the first place- I honestly wouldn’t want that person at my wedding. I would simply say, I’m sorry the rsvp date was — and I tried to contact you. I’m sorry you will be missing my special day. 🙂

Post # 8
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1165 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I definitely had to track down quite a few people after the RSVP date, but for the most part everyone got back to us when we called (still haven’t heard from 2 couples, and I’m not setting places for them just in case).  So, if people RSVP after the date, fine, add them to the count, but 5 DAYS before?!  Are you freaking kidding me?  Unless they are close family (which they probably aren’t since they never bothered to RSVP), I’d have to say nope, sorry we are already set up for the number of people we have…becaue it’s 5 DAYS BEFORE! 

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