- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2017
Warning… this is a venting post.
For starters, I’ve been waiting for the BF to propose since June. I found out he was going to back in June and it still hasn’t happened. I moved a state away to be with him a year and a half ago and we’ve talked about marriage since then. I’m tired of waiting to start but today made me even more upset.
The BF and I have been trying to get out of town on a camping trip for 4 weeks in a row now. Each week, last minute, the BF cancels because he is exhausted or feels like we don’t have time to get up there and really enjoy it and do all the things HE wants to do. (Fishing, four-wheeling, hiking, etc.) Because work has been so crazy for him, I’ve been understanding and we’ve spent our weekends doing nothing at home. Needless to say, we’ve both been looking foward to the upcoming three day weekend.
Wednesday, we had a few unexpected finances come up and we have a trip planned to MN (quite a few states away) in September so decided to cancel, YET AGAIN, our camping trip this upcoming weekend. Which, again, I was understanding during this because life has been so hectic lately. He absolutely HATES his job and it’s taken a toll on him to the point of near depression. He works for his father and they don’t see eye-to-eye on anything. He hates his job now. So, being the understandinga and loving girlfriend I am, I told him we’ll figure something else to do here. There is a festival in the mountains near our house and it’s inexpensive to spend the day or two there so we’d still save money but have fun at the same time!
All that changed this afternoon when I got home from work to HIM telling ME that HE is going with a few guy friends tot he dunes to go four-wheeling on Saturday night and he’d be home Sunday morning. Then, after seeing me visually upset over this, proceeds to say “well, I would invite you but I think you would be bored since we only have the one four-wheeler.” Yeah….. I said have fun and walked away.
Basically, I feel like OUR life is always on HIS time. Always. We moved here for HIS job which he now hates. I’M waiting on HIM to propose. WE plan trips around HIS schedule. When HE doesn’t want to go somewhere WE don’t. Then, he invites my as a F*ck*ng afterthought on HIS trip with HIS friends.
So, do I have a right to be upset or has Aunt Flo rared her ugly head? Should I confront him about this or let it go?