Why is something as simple as envelopes so complicated?

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

mine were not in cursive.  there is no right or wrong way.  it is however you want to do it.

Post # 4
1175 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@BriansBride:  When you find the answer let me know please.  I am having the same dilemma……

Post # 5
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


Here is what I did:

Outer Envelope:

  • we used labels (Taboo to some on here) (Stores carry clear labels that will work with both inket and laser printers)
  • we found a nice cursive font and addressed our guests formally (Mr. and Mrs)

Inner Envelope

  • we used labels again
  • we put the names of our guests that were invited(this way people knew not to bring their children)
  • we also used a nice cursive font (same as the outer envelope)

Return Address

  • We put this on the back flap of the envelope
  • we used return address labels

My feeling is that outer envelopes can get pretty messed up from the post office.  People usually throw this envelope away as well so I did not feel like it was necessary to hire a calligrapher or spend too much money on them. 


Post # 6
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

We used a fancy-ish script for the names, printed on the envlope because my handwriting is terrible, but the address was in non-cursive. It corresponded with the way we did our invites.

Post # 8
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@BriansBride:  many formal invites put the return address on the back of the envelope – TECHNICALLY, according to the post office, it should go in the top left corner. If you’re certain that you have the correct address and postage, this really doesn’t matter too much.

If you’re concerned about the font choice, I would do what PPs have suggested and use the cursive on your inner envelope (assuming you’re having one) and a simple font on the outside. 

I used Mrs. Blackfort for my STDs on the envelopes and had no problems – actually, a couple DID go missing, but those are people who said they have issues with their mail on a regular basis.

Post # 9
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@BriansBride:  I used it. Oops. Hopefully everything goes through okay. We’re sending them out this weekend at the latest.

Post # 10
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi @BriansBride:  Lol, Etiquette Snob here… to your rescue.

In so much as I know quite a bit about Etiquette cause of my upbringing & career.  I am pretty practical about it, and can tell you what is easiest to break and what is hardest… it is like Manners… we all make a choice to follow them or not.  There are risks & consequences when you don’t … the trick is measuring that risk.

So lets see if I can straighten some of this out for you as per the “Traditional” Rules of Etiquette

# 1 – First Choice is Calligraphy.  Second Choice is Cursive.  Third Choice is anything else (altho Computer Generated Labels tend to fall quite far down the list).  The idea being that the Invite is meant to be “personal” and special.  Not your run of the mill Bill etc.

# 2 – International… Nothing wrong with breaking the rule here for ease of delivery.  Print, Label the choice is yours I would say.

# 3 – Traditionally Return Addresses were “embossed” onto the Envelopes back flap, one can still write an address there if you like.  BUT it is true that the US Post Office prefers the address to be in the upper left hand corner on the front of the envelope.  It is totally acceptable to use a Pretty Address Label to fit your theme (OR a classic styled one if the Invite / Wedding is more “formal / classic” in nature.. ie Monogram Style).

# 4 – One has the choice of course of using a single envelope for the Invite… or a Double.  Double has its advantages cause you can use titles on the Outer, and Names on the Inner.  Double Envelopes also helps in making sure that your Guests UNDERSTAND who exactly the Invitation is for in their Household (NO Name on the Inner means NOT INVITED)

# 5 – The Reply Card Envelopes should be Self Addressed and Pre Stamped for their return to you.  For most formal of Weddings they should match the style of the Invitation’s Addressing that was mailed out to the Guest (ie Calligraphy = Calligraphy).

That said, it is considered again ok for less formal Weddings if the Bride has chosen the Reply Return Envelopes to have a pretty label that matches her theme with a pre-printed return address where she wants the Replies to be sent **

** NOTE – Good idea if the Replies go to an address that can also easily accept packages… because many Guests will use this address as a cue on where to send their Boxed Wedding Presents prior to the Wedding.

This should get you started… if you have other Questions, just ask.

Hope this helps,


Post # 11
6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Man, it makes me sad that so many people still consider it a faux pas to use labels/computer printed. I would get classy looking ones….

My problem is not only that my handwriting kind of stinks. It’s also that I have no concept of how much space something will take up–so I will end up very far to the left or right, or else not leave enough space between lines and end up with a much smaller second line than first. I don’t mind following the rules if I must for people not to think I am a tacky ass, but how do you keep the writing straight and in the right place? I don’t have the $ to hire a calligrapher.

Post # 12
1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I just print right on the envelopes. This avoids labels, which I really don’t like the look of. I can tell if they’re clear and I just prefer the look of printing directly on the envelope. I think it’s clearner and better looking. I also have pretty bad handwriting and wouldn’t really want to put that out there on my wedding invitations. I even print the envelopes for our Christmas cards.

Post # 15
1214 posts
Bumble bee

I made a template that fit inside the envelope out of a clear plastic folder.  I measured and drew lines across it with a sharpie.  I put a little lamp under my glass coffee table and used it to light the envelope enough that I could see the lines through it.  I worked very well and kept the writing straight. 

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