Hi @BriansBride: Lol, Etiquette Snob here… to your rescue.
In so much as I know quite a bit about Etiquette cause of my upbringing & career. I am pretty practical about it, and can tell you what is easiest to break and what is hardest… it is like Manners… we all make a choice to follow them or not. There are risks & consequences when you don’t … the trick is measuring that risk.
So lets see if I can straighten some of this out for you as per the “Traditional” Rules of Etiquette
# 1 – First Choice is Calligraphy. Second Choice is Cursive. Third Choice is anything else (altho Computer Generated Labels tend to fall quite far down the list). The idea being that the Invite is meant to be “personal” and special. Not your run of the mill Bill etc.
# 2 – International… Nothing wrong with breaking the rule here for ease of delivery. Print, Label the choice is yours I would say.
# 3 – Traditionally Return Addresses were “embossed” onto the Envelopes back flap, one can still write an address there if you like. BUT it is true that the US Post Office prefers the address to be in the upper left hand corner on the front of the envelope. It is totally acceptable to use a Pretty Address Label to fit your theme (OR a classic styled one if the Invite / Wedding is more “formal / classic” in nature.. ie Monogram Style).
# 4 – One has the choice of course of using a single envelope for the Invite… or a Double. Double has its advantages cause you can use titles on the Outer, and Names on the Inner. Double Envelopes also helps in making sure that your Guests UNDERSTAND who exactly the Invitation is for in their Household (NO Name on the Inner means NOT INVITED)
# 5 – The Reply Card Envelopes should be Self Addressed and Pre Stamped for their return to you. For most formal of Weddings they should match the style of the Invitation’s Addressing that was mailed out to the Guest (ie Calligraphy = Calligraphy).
That said, it is considered again ok for less formal Weddings if the Bride has chosen the Reply Return Envelopes to have a pretty label that matches her theme with a pre-printed return address where she wants the Replies to be sent **
** NOTE – Good idea if the Replies go to an address that can also easily accept packages… because many Guests will use this address as a cue on where to send their Boxed Wedding Presents prior to the Wedding.
This should get you started… if you have other Questions, just ask.
Hope this helps,