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I think for me it is the symbol of the beginning of all the things to come. I believe that my wedding day will be ONE of the most important days of my life because I have many important days that symbolize who I am.
I never thought that it would be. It's a bit depressing for me to think that the 'best day of my life' would happen so early in life. What more is there to look forward to then?
I wouldn't say that it was the most important day of my entire life, but so far it has been one of the best days of my life. You are surrounded by absolutely everyone you love in the world (ideally) and you are committing yourself to your best friend...it's just such a positive experience. How could it not be important? I'm also not comfortable with imagining the day my spouse dies as one of my most important memorable future days. I would rather not contemplate that idea at all.
While that makes sense, the wedding day is an extremely important transition in a woman's life. It's a rite of passage. It's the death or the loss of one's former self and a birth of the next. It may not be "the most important" to some, but other's it is. Is it the most important to me? No, I'm not sure yet if it is, but it definitely is one of the most important days of my life because it is an amazing accomplishment for me to get this far and not only to accept it with grace, but to actually bring myself to the point of fully giving my trust to someone.
As far as the "best day" of my life...well, how can we truly know that until we've experienced EVERY day of our lives.
I think it was the most important and happiest day of my life SO FAR. When I have children, that will change. But being surrounded by all my friends and family and committing myself to my husband was incredible, and I can't think of a happier day in my life so far!
we are just told that so we feel better about spending thousands of dollars on flowers :-P
I dont think its THE most important day, but I think its one of the most important days. I agree with you that the days your listed are some of the most important as well. I think its the meaning behind the whole day that you are beginning your life with your husband which means that you have things to come like buying a house, having children, going on trips together, having adventures together, etc. I thinks its a beautiful thing!
I'd classify a wedding day as "significant" rather than "important". I view occasions like births, deaths, unions, or major life events (converting religion, perhaps, or determining one's sexuality) as significant. Graduations, job changes or promotions, big purchases (house?) and the like are important.
Maybe it's just semantics, but I could never choose one momentous occasion over another. I think a wedding day is very special for both the couple and their families, but I certainly don't see it as the be-all, end-all experience of my lifetime.
I see marriage as a rite of passage from one phase of life to another. It is one of the most important days, but not the one most important imho. Also would put in that category the birth of my child and my graduations too (high school and college). All were important and all which placed my life in a different place than it was before.
Losing my dad and grandparents was also a change for me, and my life also. I feel in losing them in life, I had to assume more responsibility (if that could be done) and made me realize the importance of my making my own life destiny, with God's help and guidance.
There are so many special days, but I think the birth of my son was the most important because forever in my life from that day forward, was a little life, full of love and happiness that would give me more love than I could ever imagine, in a very different way.
Definitely with the birth of a child there is a huge life change..because forever there will be you putting somebody ahead of yourself in life. It was from that day forward not all about me at all anymore. But I think that change in life made me a more loving and caring person, a better person too.
I agree - I feel like women who say that are misguided. Some may think that because they have worked so hard to plan the wedding. And that it's "My Day" versus "Our Day". For me, I know that the wedding day will be very significant, but I know that we are going to have other days down the road that are even better.
And what a let down? Does saying that their wedding day is the best day of their lives means that they are on a downward slope there after? Now, that is sad!
I don't think one's wedding is THE most important day of their life, but maybe up until that point in their life it's the most important day so far? Our lives are filled with so many important and significant life events, that to me it seems hard to put all the importance on just one event/day.
I think that often times we get so caught up in all of the effort we're putting in to this one day that it gets built up to where it feels like it must be the most important day of our lives. Its a day that many women dream of from the time they're young, and its a day that we invest countless hours in; planning, dreaming, crafting, creating. It is not the most important day of our lives, but when we're in the thick of it, I think that it has a tendency to eclipse other major events in our lives.
I agree with pretty much everyone else--I don't think my wedding is the most important day of my life at all, and not even the most important day in my life so far. Unfortunately, my parents do (especially my dad, who also thinks the fact that I'm the "oldest daughter" is highly significant--which cannot be helping my younger sister's perception that he likes me better than her 
) and are using it as an excuse to be parentzillas. *le sigh*
I really don't like the idea of the wedding as most important, either. Mostly because it makes it seem as if my goal in life is to find a partner and that's the most important thing. I agree that the other events you list are really important and significant, but they're also not something you anticipate in the same way or look back on fondly.
To be honest, I probably consider the day I got my first formal job offer - full-time non-temp with benefits to be the most important day of my life thus far. It has more to do with my accomplishments and identity than finding someone who I want to be with for my life.
i never thought it would be the most important day in my life, so i don't know if i can answer the question appropriately. i simply don't agree that it is or that a lot of women expect it to be.
I always thought that statement was utterly ridiculous, but now that I've had my wedding, I can safely say it was the best day of my life so far. I plan on having others that will top it, such as the birth of children, but for now, it takes the cake, and that honestly surprised me. Just having all of the people we love come together, with many of them traveling so far for us, was incredible, and I have never felt an overwhelming level of love and support as strongly as I did that day. The details don't matter, and it wasn't my best day because of my dress, venue, or the food, but it was the best day because I was lucky enough to marry my husband, and we had so many people come so far to show their love and support for us as a couple.
not the most "important!!" but perhaps one of the happiest.
it's probably the only time in your whole life where you will have everyone you and your fiance love in the same room at the same time.
Except for your funeral.
I would have to agree with others it is significant. :) hey, most people plan for over a year...and others plan this day since they were little girls.
xoxo,
Fen
I am not sure if happiest = most important. I will say that choosing a (future) husband is probably the most important decision I have made so far because he will be a factor (and co-decision maker) in my future going forward. So the wedding itself isn't that important per se (meaning the venue choice, the flowers, etc) -- it is that it symbolizes a very important life choice. I will be very happy to have those closest to me there to mark that decision though.
My mother (who has been very happily married for over 35 years) said the happiest day of her life was when I passed the Bar exam. For her it was an indication that I would be able to stand on my own two feet and she felt the best part of parenting was leading up to raising a child to be independent.
why do people say it? because from the time we are small girls in our society, we are brainwashed to believe that we are not COMPLETE until the day we are married. we fought for the right to vote, went to work during the war, fought for the right to abortion, to take control of our reporductive health, and burned our bras, but we still believe in the fairy tale........ it's pretty sad.......
This really bugs me, as well. Especially when it is combined with treating it as much less important in the man's life.
As for "planning for over a year," I planned for way longer than that to become a lawyer. I planned my children for much longer than that. I worked for over 8 years to become a partner in my firm. I spent well over a year writing my first book. NotFroofy and I worked for nine years to get her green card.
And I don't think it is particularly good for women to be planning their weddings since they were little girls. Too many of them end up with this image of their "perfect" wedding day, a vision that no real wedding could ever live up to. And of course, that wedding they planned as little girls didn't include an actual groom with his own ideas of what he would like his wedding to be.
I don't necessarily think that a wedding is the most important day, it is an important day but not THE most. I really don't think there is such a thing as "the important day" because there are milestones in any phase of life. My graduation is one milestone, my wedding, birth of kids, grandkids, when I finally an recognized for my writing (God willing) and certain deaths. A wedding can be one of the happiest days because in a way it is the start of the other happy days.
I also think the problem with the statement lies in the fact that a wedding day is seen as the "most important day" in a woman's life. I love my fiance and our wedding day will be the most significant day in OUR relationship so far. And of course a pretty important day for us as individuals.
It's definitely going to be a very important and significant day in my life, among many others. I've looked forward to it for a long time, since I realized that FI was the person I wanted as my life partner. It's the start of something new: the two of us becoming a team. Not that we aren't already a team, but it's something more. I don't have a rational explanation for it.
Although I have accomplished a lot on my own wrt education and career, I have always thought that love and family and quality of life is more important than other sorts of success. So to me, the wedding will be the best/most important day of my life *so far* because it is the start of our own family and the celebration of our love.
I think it is because your wedding date is the biggest most significant date in between the dash of life. It's not really the most important date ever... but it's the one date that you'll remember with fondness for sure... I just was working on a genealogical project. The links that of parents, spouse, and children are significant, and only the spouse is someone you choose. I know the feminists in our midst are going to loudly proclaim that it's just a slice of life... but it's little more than that... I don't really care that my great grandparents taught school or were pioneers as much as I care that they married and had children, and were the beloved children and parents of some other dynamic people some of whom I resemble or love dearly!
To me, death isn't an important date.
To me, *the most important day of your life* is more like a special moment...
I agree its not the Most important day...just one of them. I agree there are many other days in one life to celebrate. I actually wouldn't even call a day really important. And I think you are talking about people who are a bit self-consumed in the whole planning process/bridezillaish type of behavior.
It's so special because it's the beginning of your life long committment, and this decision will effect how your life path turns out....as someone said, a symbol. I just imagine it being a very happy day.
It will be the biggest celebration involvingmyself and fiance in my whole life: I really never even had a birthday party with friends past age 11 because I was so shy.....except for when friends threw me small surprise parties in college a couple times.....so it is a big deal that i'm going to be in the center of attention etc.
Too much emphasis is put on the wedding day in my opinion. Really, its a day to celebrate a new chapter in life for a couple, and is a big day. But, personally, I think the honeymoon when I can look into my husband's eyes without 200 of our closest friends and family standing around with us the center of their attention will be much more significant to me. There will be many life adventures with awesome days and more memorable ones to boot. That doesn't mean the wedding day isn't significant or special, it just is not the be all and end all.
Those who stand to profit from your wedding day will attempt to sell it to you as the most important day of your life. Remove the frills and boil it down to its basic form, and a wedding is little more than the completion of a legal transaction that is supposed to set the stage for what comes next. In reality, the marriage that follows the wedding is far more deserving of your attention. We have been married for twelve years, and we have fond and pleasant memories of our wedding day, which was a relatively modest affair. However, the ten-year anniversary party that we threw two years ago was actually a far more extravagant event, where we were able to look back on a decade of a successful union and share that success with our closest friends and family. We are still going strong, a dozen years after our wedding day - and the "best" or "most important" day of our life together is still ahead of us.
I think you have lots of important days in your life...some days may seem ordinary and unimportant at the time but in retrospect end up being very important!!!
Like the day you forget to take the pill.....
The day you unknowingly speak to a loved one for the last time....
The day you took a chance on a guy who normally isn't your type....
I think your wedding day is an important day...but a whole chain reaction of important days leads you there.....and a whole lot of future important days rely on wedding day too!
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How come so many brides think their wedding day is the most important day of her life? My wedding day will not be the most important day of my life. I considering the birth of my child(ren), the death of my parents, and the death of my spouse to be the most important and unforgettable days of my life.