(Closed) Why is this bugging me? Drama!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

No you are not crazy. I went throught a similar situation with my old male ex-best friend. We had a push and pull between us sexually and relationship-wise for four years. When he married, I was hurt and gleeful she was not a ‘pretty’ as me, but then I felt had. If your friend wanted you, he would not have played so many games. Maybe his fear kept him from making the right move, but you can only speculate. Let it go and for the sake of your marriage purge him from your system. I had to do that for the sake of my peace of mind.

Post # 4
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158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Seems ro me like he is the crazy one here not you. I honestky wouldn’t worry about what he needs as only he can get the help he requires. i feel sorry for his bride to be…tis cn only end badly for her…

Post # 5
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1872 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

You’re not crazy. You lost a friend and it’s ok to mourn that. I also think that you’re also mourning…just a teensy bit…the loss of an admirer as well.

I had a similar relationship with an ex who could not get over us and as much as I didn’t like it–we were friends before and were trying to remain friends afterwards–I had to surgically remove myself from his life because he wouldn’t do it and I was holding him back from being happy. We are not in contact now, and I miss him on occasion, but I really think it’s better for us both this way. I hear that he’s doing much better in his own life and while it’s sad I’m not a part of it, he might not have been able to develop it if I tried to remain in his life. You need to let him go. And you need to let him get married, even if you think it’s the wrong decision. If it doesn’t work out, then it doesn’t work out and they’ll both work through it, but ultimately, it’s not your concern.

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