(Closed) Why is this upsetting me?!

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Sometimes we can’t help get upset even when we knows it’s ridiculous to get upset over, I know I’ve been there. Trust me when you and your husband have a baby it will just add even more joy to the picture.

Post # 4
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t know if i’d feel jealous of someone who is married to a person who doesn’t want a child, and is pregnant. I’ve seen how that works out long term in relationships, and it isn’t pretty.

Post # 5
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5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

My mom went through this when they were married & they got pregnant with me…. My dads brother’s wife was wanting to have the first to “give” grandkids and didn’t…

All I can say is don’t be ugly about it like she was. lol

Post # 6
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274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I completely understand.  I think it’s natural to feel a touch of jealousy.  You are not the only one out there with this type of feeling.

I am not even married yet and feel crazy urgency to “beat” the other woman in the family to producing the first grandchild.  It is ridiculous.  I know we are planning on having our first in 3 yrs.  Meanwhile my “competition” has been married for almost 1 year. 

I have nightmares of of the “competition” announcing her pregnancy at my wedding. 

Post # 8
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274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You don’t have to wait at all!!  Make a playmate!!!!

Post # 9
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4824 posts
Honey bee

I think its normal to be dissapointed on some level. Especially because you had it planned/expected to be a certain way based on real information. Probably dreamt a bit about peoples reactions etc.

However, while you arent he first I am sure they will be just as excited!

Post # 10
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5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think you and your hubby’s plans shouldn’t change because theirs have.

My sis and our cousin are very close in age (like a mth apart) & they’ve always been really close b/c of that. =)

Just keep your heart right and you’re good 😉

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i know the feeling – i got engaged in july 2010 – my SIL got married in august 2010 – by october they were already pregnant. Im super excited for them now but at first i had a twinge of jealousy more like “can i have a minute in the spotlight?” very selfish i know but it didnt last long. i just hope people dont expect me to be preggo 2 months after my wedding…i want kids! and a bunch of them but i want a year or so of just being married first.

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