Post # 1
One of my co -workers got engaged over the weekend and is so excited (as she should be). She and I talked about wedding things std, venues, rings (carat, cost ect), but not once did she mention how happy she was to find the man of her dreams. So today we were talking and she told me that she was leaving early to go get her ring appraised. And as she was there talking I started to feel a little akward. As much as I love my ring (and I love it), but I was never that eager to go out and get it appraised. I understand for insurance reasons why its so important, but why is that important right now? I was engaged for several months without a ring and honestly he could have given me a soda top and I would felt equally as excited. The fact that we were both looking forward to growing old together was all that mattered.
It made me wonder did somehow along the path some of us are more excited about getting a ring instead of enjoying a lifetime with someone your soulmate? Or am I overthinking things?
Post # 3
To answer the title question, it’s important to me because of the great person that got it for me. But reading everything you said, maybe she feels that it’s obvious that she’s happy to have gotten a great guy? I don’t really like to ever sound like I’m bragging, so I don’t run around telling people how happy he makes me, etc. I was pretty excited to get my ring appraised because then it meant I could get insurance on it (I already knew how much it cost, so it wasn’t like I was trying to “find out” or whatever), so I didn’t have to worry about something bad happening to it.
Post # 4
If its an expensive ring, I can see why she’d want to run out and get it appraised an insured. But I do think you’re over thinking it. To me, it was already going in the direction of getting married and spending my life with this person, it was gradual and building to that point. The ring and planning more sudden.. no ring one second, ring the next,and then real planning -> excitement. Besides, how would you show excitement for your guy? Brag about him? Talk about your life together? Not really, the excitement you feel about spending your life together probably comes through in the excitement of wedding planning and being engaged, which the ring is the symbol of.
Post # 5
It’s important for sentimental reasons and I also like that its a way to visually “share” that I’m married. As far as your comment about her getting her ring appraised, I didn’t wear mine until it was appraised and properly insured. I would be psycho until I knew it was safe!
Post # 6
Thanks maybe I was overthinking things.
Post # 7
I love my ring because: 1. It is a symbol of our future marriage, and our commitment we made to one another even though we have a long road ahead of us to marriage, 2. I think it is the most beautiful and perfect ring in the whole wide world, and 3. It didn’t cost that much! (Relatively speaking)
Post # 8
I’m bad… I’ve had my ring since July and haven’t had it appraised yet!
I agree somewhat on what you say. I see a lot of girls (on here and other places) spend too much time bragging about the carrot and size of their ring, or who are getting to annoyed that their SO who they love and trust isn’t propossing to them this second. Personally I know very little about my ring. It was my FI’s grandmothers and I plan on getting it appraised once we have the bands (one appraisal appointment!) and will be excited to learn more about my ring at that time. I think shes just very excited about everything to do and about being engaged. I love my Fiance and would be marring him even if I didn’t have a ring right now. But if I’m taking about wedding planning I’m generally not going to talk about how much I love my Fiance. He knows how much I love him and thats all that matters!
Post # 9
I LOVE my ring b/c
It’s represents DH’s desire to provide something precious for me (since a diamond is a precious stone) b/c I’m so precious to his life!
^what he told me about why it was important to him & that’s now why it’s important to me.
We got my ring through a wholesaler so I was excited to get the appraisal just to see how much we saved! lol
Post # 10
I think you’re over thinking the situation. I don’t think most people gush about the fiance if you’re talking wedding stuff. It seems like people gush about the venue or the dress or other details. Unless you were talking about the proposal or a marriage, I would be surprised if she was talking about how amazing it was to be engaged to the guy and how incredible he was, etc. Maybe I’m just not very romantic or sentimental though.
I think getting the ring appraised and gushing about the fiance are totally separate things. You said you didn’t have a ring several months into the engagement, but as soon as you got the ring, didn’t you appraise it so you could insure it? My ring was insured immediately because my fiance was sure that it would end up somewhere in the garden before the first month was out. I would never wear my ring if it wasn’t insured. It just seems like she’s being responsible to me.
Post # 11
Well I didnt have to get it appraised b/c we picked it out and designed it together so I already knew. But I did put it on my homeowner insurance policy. I didnt feel like she was bragging or anything like that, She and I are good friends so maybe I was expecting a different response.
@ auggie thats exactly how I feel
Post # 12
I got engaged without a ring, so clearly, although I love my rings like no other, I would be content with a twist tie on my finger just so long as I could be with my husband, lol. I still haven’t taken my rings to be appraised…guess I should do that one of these days!
Has your coworker been with her Fiance a long time? Sometimes if people have been waiting ages for a proposal, they’re so relieved when it finally happens that they just go into hyper detail mode and gush about all the things they can finally do (and wear, lol) now that it’s official. Doesn’t mean she cares about her Fiance any less, just that she’s really, really, REALLY excited to be a bride.
Post # 13
@pinkshoes: If its an expensive ring, I can see why she’d want to run out and get it appraised an insured. But I do think you’re over thinking it.
I was just thinking this myself. My ring was appraised and insured before it even came home from the jewelers. It is the just the safe and smart thing to do and the sooner the better.
I have to say that you are overthinking it a bit. If she had been discussing the value of her ring, how much she thought it was worth etc that is one thing. To mention that she is going to have an appraisal isn’t really an over the top thing to mention within a conversation. I certainly wouldn’t have put any thought into it.
For me my ring is important because it represents how far we have come as a couple and as individuals. We both have worked hard and set a five year plan in motion that is paying off for us both with success at work and with each other.
Post # 14
@soon2bnixon: I don’t know if you’re overthinking things, but it was extremely important to my FH and I to immediately get my e-ring appraised and get insurance on it. We’re pretty risk averse people, and I’d just rather be safe than sorry! I’ve heard of stories of women losing their e-rings and I didn’t want to be without insurance. Especially when you’re looking at the value of the ring that could very well be tens of thousands of dollars. I don’t know what your co-worker was thinking, but I know that you can put a lot of importance and a priority on getting your ring appraised/insured, but still care upmost for your FH and the new life that you’re about to start together. 🙂
Post # 15
Well, some people want a wedding and some people want to be married. There is a big difference.
My ring is special to me because it represents not only me, but our two children as well (it is a three-stone ring). The fact that my husband put that much thought into something very simple not only astounds me, but reminds me of why we are married to begin with.
I still haven’t had my ring appraised!
Post # 16
Some people want a wedding AND to be married. I mean, the reason I think we’re all on the Bee is because we want a wedding and want to talk about all of the details that encompasses. I am excited to be married to and spend my life with my Fiance for sure, but when I talk to friends it’s allllll about the details of the day! And I don’t think that means I don’t love him or have my priorities in the wrong place.
The ring is here and now. The wedding is here and now. You said it yourself: marriage is a lifetime. There’s a lifetime ahead of us to be married to our SOs and wallow in the happiness that stems forth from that. Right now? I wanna talk sparkly jewelry and centerpieces!