Post # 1
I’m sort of having a destination wedding, in SF- 6 hours from me, almost 2 hours from my hometown (where most of my people live), and one of my FBILs and his wife live there. It was the right decision for us because we love SF, my fiancé proposed in Golden Gate Park, and it’s a more exciting place for my FH’s people, who are all over the country, to visit. Additionally we’re having an afternoon outdoor summer wedding, which could easily be insanely hot in my hometown, but our only worry in SF is a slight chance of rain, and we have a backup plan. And my people who don’t have much money don’t even have to get a room for the night if they don’t want to.
But I don’t think I’m a typical destination bride by any means, I don’t think everyone would even consider me one, so I was curious, what are some other brides’ reasoning?
Post # 3
We are currently planning our destination wedding at Sandals Royal Caribbean (in Jamaica!)
It was right for us for a number of reasons…
1. Our families are scattered all over the US. Everyone would have to travel to some degree, no matter where the wedding is held.
2. Budget. We are paying for this thing entirely on our own, and would simply not have the cash to have a nice traditional wedding in a nice venue. (Not knocking anyone else out there, but I would not want to “host” anything with subpar food or potluck, paper plates, cash bar, etc.)
3. We’re not at all close to our extended families. This kind of goes both ways; we’d love to hang out with and get to know our families better over the course of a week. AND, we know we won’t be surrounded by extended family we don’t really know (since very few, if any, will attend). If that makes sense- it’s kind of a pro for us, either way.
4. This goes along with budget, but we’d never be able to afford a honeymoon and a traditional wedding. Now, we get to go on a big, beautiful vacation with all of our closest friends and family, and have a wonderful honeymoon to boot!
Really, it’s fabulous every way you look at it 🙂
Post # 4
We’re in a different situation from most DW brides
FI is from Scotland and his parents are still there. They are older and not really able to make the 10+ hour flight to where we live in DC. To have his parents attend the wedding, we knew we had to go there, to them.
We were originally looking at having something very small in Scotland (like 10 people) but then realized that many of our friends wanted to come. So,we did an informal “poll” to,see who would be interested/able to come. We invited 114 and have 72 attending.
Post # 5
We chose a desination wedding because of two reasons:
1. I feel I would much prefer for the people that love me see me and FI get married and not Aunt Suzzie’s- sister’s- daughter’s- boyfriend’s- best friend to be there.
2. The beach is one of our favorite places in the whole world so it seems fitting to have one of the most precious moments in our lives happen somewhere we both love.
Post # 6
Fabulous ladies, I added a poll, and if I get any other reasons I’ll add them as options. 🙂
Post # 7
@ladyamalthea: We chose a DW in Canada for several reasons:
1) wanted a drop dead gorgeous backdrop and the Canadian Rockies are it (Tetons were it, but we can go there any old weekend)
2) we could drive there (albeit itwas a 15 hour drive each way) – so we planned it all in 15 days
3) same time zone, credit cards can be used, US money could be used, no language barrier
4) we had no guests to consider so we could really just go anywhere we wanted to have a vacation
Basically we wanted an awesome vacation and watned to go somewhere new and far away. Money was not a huge factor. We splurged in moderation. LOL
Post # 8
We wanted to avoid guest list drama. My fiance’s family is super huge (mom is one of 8, dad is one of 6) and they’re quite close so cutting the list wasn’t an option. A wedding at home would have cost us a small fortune (which we diiiid not have). Going away enabled us to invite everyone without discrimination, ensure that limited numbers came and still allowed us to have a wedding we could afford!
Post # 10
My fiance is from Ireland. I am from New England. We live in Canada!
Haha, so no matter how we chose to do it, it was going to be destination for all or half our families. Ultimately we decided to go with his hometown in Ireland. It means so much to him and it is the place where we first met and fell in love.
But I’m not really a true DW bride either – we still have allllll the hasles of a regular fairly big wedding (100 people) plus trying to help my side of the family get over there. It is more than worth it though! I can’t wait!
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
We met in Las Vegas (4 hours from my hometown), and decided it just fit! My family and friends already love Vegas. His family / friends are all from England, and our destination gave them extra reason to come.
Post # 12
@mu_t: what are you all doing for the meal after the wedding, if anything? We are thinking destination for similar reasons, and I am trying to figure out the meal afterwards. We’d like to just buy everyone lunch/dinner then hang out.
Post # 13
– Like someone else has said, avoid guest list drama
– Watched so many other brides-to-be stress endlessly about the big day, and then just be glad that it’s over – didn’t want that to be me
– Machu Pichu has a wedding package where it is all done for you – and there will be incredible photos
– Can have a ‘re-do’ ceremony here, and a small party at our house after to celebrate
– I find that sometimes formal weddings can be contrived and pretentious, and I didn’t want that
Post # 14
@ladyamalthea: We are getting married in Incline Village, NV. overlooking Lake Tahoe. I am doing a DW for several reasons.
Budget!! We had gone back and forth over should we just elope, or do something and invite everyone. Eventually settling in between. I like the previous poster wanted something a little more grand, for fewer people. I wanted great food, and a great loacation at a decent price. I wanted to spoil my guests if only for 3 days.
Limiting guest list. I will be 43 when I get married next year. I did not want a tradidtional “church” wedding. Not that I am against church weddings, I just didn’t feel it was appropriate for a second marriage. Most of my family has told me to just go to the JOP and get married, and this was also a determining factor in who was invited. We settled on FAMILY only. Immeadiate family…….parents, our grown children, and one sibling. Total guest count…..10 people. But those 10 people are going to have a fabulous weekend, on us!
Location. We both LOVE Lake Tahoe. And it is the halfway point for all of those invited. Not an exeuberent amount of travel for anyone. 5-6 hour drive for the furthest person. We wanted to keep travel cost down, so we could have more budget for a nice weekend spent with those we care most about.
I want the tone to be one of relaxed excitement. I don’t want to conform to the traditional craziness of a full on wedding. I don’t want to be rushed, and I don’t want any drama. I wanted to have a memorable weekend, and to celebrate in style. I do not have to be committed to a schedule.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House
It’s not really a DW, except for the fact that everyone will have to travel. We’re getting married in FI’s hometown…but none of my friends, and only some of his friends (same for family) live there. Less than 10% of our guest list is local. So this should be interesting.
Post # 16
We are from Australia and got married in Vegas. It worked for us because both of our families and our friends love to travel and are spread out around the world. We didn’t want to do the same old destination wedding of Fiji/Bali/Thailand and wanted a fun city.
It didn’t save us any money, in fact it cost us a lot more in the long run because we paid for all of our guests to attend. But if we hadn’t paid for travel and accommodations etc it would have been much cheaper than a wedding in Australia.