Why Marrying Young May Benefit You

posted 3 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@adayoruba:  Honestly, I think that age doesn’t matter.  Sure there are tons of statistics for this and that, but statistics mean nothing to the individual.  If you’re in a great relationship and you know the person you’re with is “the one,” getting married at 22 or 42 really shouldn’t matter.  That being said, I do think it’s sad that so many younger brides get pressured to wait.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I personally don’t put much stock in articles like that. Anyone can slap a few variables together and find a correlation somewhere!  I personally don’t feel positively or negatively about my age when I got married (26). It was the time in my life where I happened to find a great guy to marry. If that happened earlier or later in life, that would have been just fine too! I love my husband and being married, but I also had a very happy, fulfilling life as a single woman and would have had no issues being single for a few more years!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@housebee:  +1 

Me and my DH are not statistics, we are people. I like being young and married. DH makes going to college so much more enjoyable and I make is military job less stressful. His mom and my mom were plotting our marriage since the day we met, everyone knew it would happen. 

I think there are benefits to getting married at any age and there are negative factors in every choice as well. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@adayoruba:  Thanks for posting this! Of course there’s no ideal age for everyone to get married, but when you hear the statistics over and over “your marriage is twice as likely to end in divorce if you don’t wait till 25” it gets under your skin a bit. I’ll barely be 24 when we get married,  but it’s perfect for us because it’s perfect for US! 😀

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

@MrsWBS:  I agree with you. Those ”reasons” are more humoristic than anything else. You’ll be more happy … it’s very personal, and it’s very subjective too. If I look at the type of relationship I had or my friends we were not all happy in our early 20s. You’ll have more money, again it depends, what are we comparing here ? Married couple vs. single people ? Hum, no surprise there. You’ll have more sex : wasn’t there a study that showed married people have LESS sex in general than non-married couples ? You’ll drink less alcohol, what ? Again, it’s an entourage thing. I’ve never been surrended by partyers and I’ve never been one myself, at age 21 I was already over with partying and I’ve stuck to social drinking (wine at dinner) ever since. 

Number 5 though is correct : when you feel ready and the relationship is healthy, and you can afford to get married, there’s no point waiting 5 years to please everybody. You’re both adults and should enter marriage as such.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

In all the couples I ‘ve known who married young (early 20’s)- honestly I can only name 1 (out of 8+) that are still together. It’s sad because almost all of them had children and now they’re broken families with tons of drama.

I think it’s better to get married more towards age 30 or later, because then each person knows who they are and what they want out of life.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@adayoruba:  Great article, thanks for posting! I wish more men would step up to this reality — we live in a culture where it’s ok (even glamorized) to be a man-boy far too long. Most 20-something women I know are ready (and willing!) to be married, but most young men (mid-20s) are still growing up. I’m glad I got a guy who stepped up and asked me, even when society was telling him it would’ve been ok to living in his parent’s basement for another couple of years… or decades… geeze.

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think if a young person needs an article like this to help themselves feel better about getting married young, then they probably shouldn’t be getting married yet. Statistics like this don’t help anyone, but instead give the people who buy into them false ideas of how marriage/life at their age actually is, instead of relying on their own instincts and intellect to help them decide.

I’m not saying people who marry young are wrong, I’m just hoping that those who choose to marry young don’t do it because an article had some positive facts.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

I love this thread! I do think that it is best to wait until 25 when the brain is fully developed, and I would not ever get married at 18.. But I hate hearing people say “You need to wait!” Frankly, if you know in your heart that it is right, why wait?

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

@adayoruba:  omo, nice facts o! It’s always nice to come across fellow Nigerians  on these forums. #igbobybirth

 

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