Post # 1
Love this article: http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/13231665/ns/today-weddings/t/want-man-propose-be-bitch/
Definitely going to read the book. I actually read a few chapters in the book store one day, but didn’t want to bring it home in case the bf saw it!
I totally subscribe to this philopsophy, which is why I am the way I am (some may have noticed from my previous posts). I completely believe in being confident and in control of my destiny.
I especially like this part….
Imagine a world in which roles were reversed and men cooked for women, picked up socks, and couldn’t wait to get married. Pretend you had a boyfriend who owned a hope chest with six lavender bow ties inside that he wanted his groomsmen to wear at the wedding. Picture him getting choked up every time you strolled past a Baby Gap. And that he greeted you at the door wearing silk boxers and cowboy boots, so he could do a pole dance for you. Then add a few ultimatums:
“Where’s my ring?” “Why won’t you marry me?”
Chances are, you would assume the guy wasn’t firing on all cylinders. And then you’d start planning your escape.
Really try to imagine that…definitely changes your perspective! This alone has me thinking twice about my actions. Who wants to seem desperate?!
Post # 3
@Reign14: HAHA! I love this. Some of these waiting threads are so depressing, everyone should read this!
Post # 4
I had to read that book and “Don’t be That Girl” for a class in college. They are both interesting reads….as is “It’s called a break-up because its broken”
Post # 5
OK. Reading that made me want to buy the book.
Post # 6
Hahaha… can’t stop laughing on the excerpt.
Post # 7
I really love this article too. Thanks for sharing!
Post # 8
Right before I met my husband (like barely a month before), I read “He’s Just Not That Into You.” I bought it for my best friend too. What’s funny is that some of the advice stuck with and really made sense to me. At the time, I was kind of dating someone else who was interested, but not making any moves, not showing complete interest, dragging his feet. I met my husband on a Thursday, had our first date on that Sunday, and talked in between. He was interested, engaged in our conversations, everything that the book said is good! The other guy called asking to hang out with me on that Friday (after not talking and going on a drinking binge). I said that I had a date on Friday and left it at that. I actually had a date on Saturday. 7 years later, we’ve been married for almost two years and preparing to TTC. I can thank that book for steering me away a bad situation to my husband!
Post # 9
@KatyElle: Haha they do get depressing.
It helps to read something motivating once in a while. We need those reminders and eye-openers.
After reading the article I have already decided to proceed a little differently with my waiting strategy than originally planned.
Post # 10
I need to read this book. I also heard the Venus/Mars book is good too.
Post # 11
Sounds like a good read to me… 🙂
Post # 12
@Reign14: Haha. I’d like to shake that author’s hand.
Reading some of the waiting threads, it’s alarming to me how not in control of their own lives some of these women are.
Post # 13
Yeah….so I’m ordering this book like today! That was so good!
Post # 14
@KatyElle: I also find them a bit sad – I couldn’t imagine having my whole life revolve around trying to be married.
Post # 15
@KatyElle: haha! i agree! I started to realize that reading some posts would literally make me depressed. luckily i checked myself and i’m back to normal lol
@CrystalBlackheart: yea I mean I want to get married but it’s more like “when it happens, it happens.” of course I’ve been with my bf 2 yrs, so not too long
but i can understand if you’ve been waiting ten years or something it would get really hard
Post # 16
I like that book. Another good one is Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others.