Why my FMIL treats my fiancee and I differently?

posted 1 week ago in Family
Post # 2
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5616 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Uh…why does your MIL get to decide what you and your fiance do? If you want to buy a house, buy a house. Be adults, make your own damn decisions. 

Post # 3
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425 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - Outside in Paris

As PP said this is between you and your FI. She’s allowed to give her opinion and advice but ultimately it’s not up to her.

Post # 4
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1771 posts
Buzzing bee

What the actual fuck. Stop comparing your life to everyone else’s and stop letting your FMIL make your decisions. You’re adults, if you want to go something, do it. Your FMIL is under no obligation to help buy your house, and whether they helped your FI’s sibling or not has absolutely nothing to do with you. This is so strange. 

Post # 6
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5616 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Your life will be a million times easier if you don’t care about this. Live your life and don’t worry about what others are doing. You can’t just demand that someone act differently so bitching about it won’t do anything but hurt you.

Post # 7
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508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

vortex :  omg you sound so entitled. Grow up, and stop expecting handouts from your in laws. It doesn’t matter what they do for your FI’s brother – as you said, they make less than you, so maybe that’s why the parents help them out more. Or maybe they just plain like them better than you which doesn’t seem surprising based on your attitude. 

Post # 8
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9520 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

“While for the brother they didn’t ask if the brother wants to move to a new condo. They automatically started condo shopping for the brother. What I want is equality.”

So you want them to go ahead and make major decisions for your life without consulting you? Ok.

Post # 10
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44809 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My Dad used to say “Nobody ever promised you that life would be fair.” Your FMIL isn’t the only parent who assists one child financially, more than another. What it means is they see your FI as competent and able to take care of himself and the brother? not so much.

No, it’s not fair but what it comes down to is, It’s their money and they can do with it what they will.

Be proud of what you have done on your own and don’t be that DIL.

Post # 12
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4438 posts
Honey bee

vortex :  

For heaven’s  sake girl ( or boy, you refer to fiancée rather than fiancé , so it’s hard to tell) stop carrying on about how other people interact. Do you not know yet that life is not always fair  and that siblings often  get treated differently? 

And why on earth  is your FMIL involved in your finances anyway?  Really !

Post # 15
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44809 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

vortex :  But you don’t get to say how they parent their sons.

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