- 5 years ago
My fiance and I got engaged October 3rd. It was PERFECT, and it was also nothing I had ever imagined or thought I would even want!
So, on September 30th we had this romantic date planned to go hiking at Starved Rock State Park, followed by dinner at a swanky brewery/restaurant. I just *knew* this is when he was going to propose so I tried to contain my excitement all day. HOWEVER, Sept. 30th was a Sunday and therefore there were probably A MILLION people also hiking at the park. There was NO WHERE to go for any kind of privacy, but I was still optimistic that the proposal would happen, if not at the park then later at dinner. Long story short, it didn’t. I stayed optimistic, and suggested we do a “date night” later that week (Oct. 3rd). At this point, I decided not to expect ANYTHING because I didn’t want to be let down (we had been together over 4.5 years at this point so it was really, really hard not to expect a proposal EVERY time we went out to dinner, etc.!). That date night was casual, as per usual. We went to dinner at a chain steak restaurant, which was putting on some kind of American Idol-style karaoke that night. The food was ok, the karaoke entertainment was awful/hilarious. Then, he suggested we go downtown to the spot we spent my 21st birthday a few years prior. WE HAD A BLAST. It was a Wednesday night, so there was no one at the bar, and we were friendly with the waitress, who took us to this private room for bowling and darts. We also made friends with the bartender and security guard and overall had an awesome time. When we got home, we decided to watch a movie. While it was starting up, we were playfully wrestling on the couch, and all of a sudden I feel him slip something on my finger. My initial reaction was “WTF IS THIS”…. he said “I love you so much, will you marry me?”. I’m pretty sure I asked him to repeat the question before I answered, hah!
I had always pictured my engagement being this big, dramatic gesture, and insisted I would never say “yes” unless the guy was on bended knee. But looking back, I wouldn’t have pictured it any other way (we are pretty private people, and thinking back, a huge proposal would have been outright embarrassing!).
So here’s my advice for waiting bees.
1. DON’T expect a huge, grand ordeal if that’s not the type of couple you are. My fiance and I are incredible laid back, but I was really hung up on that bended knee, perfect, B.S. Our proposal was perfect because it was US!! (comfortable, at home, watching a movie… as per usual!)
2. DON’T badger your boyfriend for a proposal! I feel like I waited “too long” for a proposal. I was with my fiance for over 4.5 years before we got engaged, and I was probably constantly expecting it after the 3 year mark. It’s healthy to talk about your future, but don’t BADGER. My fiance had my ring more than A YEAR before he proposed, because he was waiting for me to not mention it for a while so it would truly be a surprise (which it was!).
3. DO make sure to tell your SO how much you love and care for them always. Tell them AND show them, it will make the proposal come that much quicker, because they won’t want to let you go! 🙂