(Closed) Why not all bridesmaids?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it’s completely fine to not have a MOH.  You may find, however, that once you decide the order of the maids, it will still dictate first choice of best friends.  I have two very close friends as well but my daughter is my MOH.  I was surprised at the snippy-ness between the two friends of who would be standing next to my daugther, and who would be at the end.  I love them both the same so I ended up going in size order (shortest to tallest).

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I haven’t named anyone specifically the MOH and I’m not planning to.  All my bridesmaids are important to me in different ways. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think it’s totally fine not to have a MOH! I wasn’t planning on having one, but then it just felt right to ask my BFF who lives in the same city to help me out in a special way. She’s really been here for me recently, and I know she’ll do a great job.

Post # 7
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Honey bee

Just a word of warning. I was just talking to my friend that is in a bridal party with no MOH. She is pissed because she is taking on the role or organzing everything because there is no MOH designation and she doesnt get the “title” to make up for all the work she is doing.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

But you still have to put them in order, in terms of who walks in first and last and who stands nearest to you. The ‘maid standing closest to you would end up acting as MOH, by holding your bouquet for you, fixing your veil or train [if you have one] so even if you dont designate a moh, a leader will still emerge

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m doing this.  I have two sisters and a cousin (who was raised like another sister) and I didn’t want to choose.  I was scared that it would cause problems to pick one over the other.  So far, it’s worked out great.  All three of them are wearing a different color dress than my other bridesmaids.  And when toast time rolls around, all three of them are welcome to make a toast if they choose.  As far as the ceremony goes, my cousin will be standing next to me. So far, so good.  

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Who is going to sign the marriage license as the witness?  If you choose one of the bridesmaid’s then I think it will appear as a MOH, and also a speech if you do those?  Something other things to think about, good luck!  

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Cornhusker: not all states require a witness, VA doesn’t.  but good points all around.

I only chose one because it was my FI’s idea (like I care? lol) and it makes sense because I’ve known her longer than the other two girls.  

 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think it is fine to do it however you want to…although if only one of those girls is your sister personally I would designate her as your maid of honor. I am having my sister as maid of honor, brother as man of honor, sister-in-law plus 3 friends as bridesmaids…and I know there is no hurt feelings that I picked my sister.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Hello!

I am doing the exact same thing. I have 9 bridesmaids including one jr bridesmaid and I do not have a MOH. I couldn’t choose. I was MOH in two of the BMs wedding. Of course I have my very besties friend that I consider to be just like my MOH she is first in line. I didnt want to hurt anyone and everyone is wearing the same dress.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

If we have a wedding party, we won’t be calling anyone out as ‘more special’, either. I would be including my best friend since childhood and my closest female cousin, and having to choose between the two of them would be impossible! 

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