Post # 1
It seems that many parents spend hours, days, and even months deciding on a middle name for their children. Then, when daughters get married, they drop the middle name. So, my question is, why do parents insist on choosing a middle name?
Thanks in advance to all who answer.
Post # 3
I didn’t drop my middle name and I don’t expect my daughter to drop hers, either. I’ve actually never heard that before.
Post # 4
@beemyname: I didn’t drop my middle name. But even if I had, it would have been a name I’d happily had for about 25 years. And not all girls marry. And these days, many marry and don’t take their husband’s surname.
Bottom line is: you name the child. It’s her decision what to do with her name as an adult.
Post # 5
My mother doesn’t have a middle name and neither does SO. It’s not that weird to not give a middle name.
Post # 6
Yeah I’ve never heard of dropping a middle name after marriage.
My partner doesn’t have a middle name. I guess there’s no point to it really. Just a personal choice. Perhaps it could be good for distinction if their first name and last name together may be common.
I will most likely give our kids middle names, but won’t spend hours and days obsessing over it like you mentioned. It will be a family name like grandmother or grandfather.
Post # 7
i don’t plan on dropping my middle name. my mother didn’t drop hers, neither did either one of my grandmothers.
Post # 8
I only know of one person who took their maiden name as their middle after marriage, and it was because she hated her middle name.
Post # 9
For 9 years I was in the same calss with a girl with the same first name and a rhyming last name! The only way we could ever tell who people were talking to was when they used my middle name!
Post # 10
No one I know gave up their middle name when they married.
Post # 11
@beemyname: I have never heard of people dropping their middle names when getting married? you dont HAVE to have a middle name. SO doesnt, but I def. would want our kids to have one.
Post # 12
I have only read about a few people dropping their middle name.
For me my middle name is a family tradition that is handed down. Kind of like the last name for a guy. Everyone in my family for 4 generations has the same middle name (guys, girls, cousins, aunts etc)
Post # 13
Why would a woman drop her middle name after marriage? I have never heard of someone actually doing this.
Post # 14
I kept my middle name, I don’t know that many people who take their maiden name as their new middle name.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard
I’ve also never heard of a person dropping their middle name. I like mine very much, and when I was a kid, I considered having people call me by that name.
@beemyname: have you considered giving her your middle name? or the first or middle name of any other female you would like to honor? in my family we traditionally give all of the first born girls the same middle name (passed down from the mother’s side).
Post # 16
@beemyname: You don’t have to give them a middle name. I know plenty of people without them.