Post # 1
Hi bees! I just want to vent really quick…
I’m glad everyone loves their dresses! I really am. And it’s great that everyone loves the dresses in themselves more then the stock/model photos.
But it really bothers me that everyone feels they need to comment on how bad the dress looks on the models and how sickly they look. I understand they very one has a right to their opinion, but just like u wouldn’t comment on someones picture and them someone else, or everyone else can rock the dress better then them, I don’t think it is very kind to say that about the models.
Only reason why I’m saying this is because I am a wedding dress model. And I have joined wedding bee as a bride in the pat for help but was and continue to be hurt by the mean comments directed towards us models… I have seen a few pics of myself either taken off the designers website or whatever with hurtful comments.
I am NOT anorexic or sickly either. Just a little upset.
Post # 3
Because honestly, 99% of wedding stock photos I see, the bride looks hunched over and contorted into an unflattering pose, or has been photoshopped to unrealistic proportions for a human. I’m sure the models are lovely, but yeah, it would be nice to see some non model brides for a change, as most women don’t look like that and would like to get a more accurate view of what that dress would look like on their body.
Plus the scowling, miserable expressions I so often see don’t exactly scream “Yay I’m getting married!”
Post # 4
I’m sorry that you feel this way and that people’s comments have upset you. I don’t know the exact instances, but most people don’t say the models look sickly, anorexic or whatever. I’m sure some might, but most don’t.
I for one DO think I look better than the model in my dress picture, but I would never trash her. I don’t even remember what she looks like, only that I completely passed over my dress online because it didn’t have any impact. Some dresses are like that. Some styles look better on some people, and there should be a variety of sizes in wedding dress model photographs to appropriately show off the way the dress looks.
Post # 5
Must agree. Everyone, regardless of shape, size, age, color, or what aesthetic qualities may have you, are beautiful and worthy of respect. I’m not sure if this is what you’re addressing (I don’t commonly lurk in threads about dresses), but as someone who is plus size and involved in many “Love Yourself” campaigns, there seems to be this acceptance of putting down others in an attempt to justify your own beauty that may not be as much of a focus in media like magazines or television. But putting down the models that may have bodies or a certain looks that magazines use more often, you’re doing the same thing. Beauty does not come in only one shape or form, and calling someone “annorexic and sickly looking” is not okay. </slightly incoherent & sleep ramble>
Post # 6
I understand. And trust me when I say that posing like we have cramps isn’t fun. But I still dothat think that attackingthe models physical shape is necessary…. 🙁 models actually he wedding dress models are much bigger then runway/editorial models. I am one out of a handful that does both. They usual models chosen for dress work are a bit bigger, they need to be so that the dress doesn’t overwhelm them. So when I see comments, which I have unfortunately, about us “anorexic” models it hurts.
Yes some monuts are anorexic but to just assume a disorder on someone is mean.
But thanks for the reassuring words guys 🙂
Post # 7
@Vidya: THANK YOU SOO MUCH!!!
Post # 8
@Vidya: “there seems to be this acceptance of putting down others in an attempt to justify your own beauty” <— that’s interesting and sometimes very true!
OP, I don’t think I’ve ever thought anything negative about a wedding dress model’s body shape, but I’m not a big fan of many of the poses and facial expressions! You models probably don’t have much control over that part (I imagine there must be direction coming from the photographer or someone) but some of the poses and expressions are downright awful (and like you said, no fun)! 🙂
Post # 9
Show us some of your pics!
Post # 10
@Vidya: I agree 100%. Sometime I think people forget that models are real women with real body image issues just like the rest of us.
Post # 11
I think sometimes the models are knocked down because the pictures are photoshop and show stick figure. I know I am guilty of saying “never judge a dress by the model wearing it”. I know a few people who think that because some of the models are not curve means the dress will not look right on them. I for one when I was dress shoping was looking for a dress that was worn by a model that had a similar body type to myself.
Post # 12
@Vidya: Such a great post, I totally agree. The woman who models my dress and I could be sisters, there is a pretty uncanncy resemeblence and we are both tall and thin. I am sure all of you look beautiful in your wedding gowns. But all women are beautiful, including the models who wear them. Love each other, ya’ll
Post # 13
I agree, I want to see you!
For me, it’s definitely not the models themselves but rather the editing and Photoshop that makes me upset. I don’t want to see a computer-inhanced person with an impossible body in any sort of advertisement.
Post # 14
I’m really sorry that you’ve felt this way. I hardly think that anyone had meant a personal attack. Does it make it ok? No. Do we all have moments of insecurity that maaaaaybe don’t always come out in the best light? Possibly. I am sorry that they put you in some of those unbelievably awkward positions just to sell a product. Thank you for shedding some light on the modeling industry. By all means, post a picture of yourself so we can continue to compliment you!
Post # 15
I’d also love to see some of your work. I have seen you in your dress per your previous posts and you are very beautiful!
Post # 16
when people complain about the models, they mean to complain about the industry image that has a very narrow view of what is beautiful. obviously, models are good-looking people, but there is an extreme lack of variety in the sizes and shapes (and in many cases, ethnicities) of the models used. yes, they’re beautiful, but they aren’t the only type of beautiful out there.
unfortunately, the hate of the people creating this narrow definition of beauty is sometimes turned towards the models themselves, who are obviously not to blame for all our societal woes. sorry that you’ve seen so much of this. two wrongs don’t make a right.