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    mrs bonez    April 30, 2011  

    From the beginning FMIL has been insisting she has a bunch of "friends" that absolutely MUST be invited as she really wants them there. Our wedding that is. There's about a dozen of these alleged friends. Whatever,after many arguments we decided that we should have the room in our venue, and we insisted she pay for these people (i'll believe that when the check clears but that's another issue). The thing that confuses me is not only have I never met them, but FI has never met them either! And FMIL has plenty of parties, barbeques, etc throughout they year (for both family and friends)you would think if they were important "friends" of hers we would have at least met them at some point at one of her various events! No matter how much this issue is "settled" I truly think it's going to get under my skin for awhile. So WHY the insistence that these "strangers" to both FI and myself be invited?!?

     
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    msmonicka    June 19, 2010   Milwaukee, Wisconsin

    Oh my! I'm sorry you're going thru this. It is a little wierd that niether of you, especially her own son has never met any of these ppl and she has events all the time. I'm with you tho, if they aren't important enough to be invited to her events then why on earth must they be invited to your wedding. What did she say when you guys told her that she would have to pay for them?

     
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    leelee    February 21, 2010   NH

    Has she said who these people actually are? and are they that important that they come if no one has met them ever??? I wouldn't waste the guest list on them even if she is paying for them....

     
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    Bamboo    June 2010   Midwest

    Yea...I think if the groom doesn't even know his mother's friends then its not really appropriate for them to be there.

     
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    Chillmer    May 30, 2010   Milwaukee

    Oh yeah, my FMIL is doing this too, so I totally sympathize.  There's people on the guest list my fiance didn't even know!  My rule is if you don't know who they are, they're not coming.  I took them off the list.

     

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