(Closed) Why we can't enjoy anything when whe are waiting.

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Aw I completly understand. My birthday was in July and I told him I didn’t want any thing at all. He still spent alot of money on me, I would of rather him save his money for the ring. 

  They just don’t get it!! Well atleast you will have lots of fun at the concert! I went to a concert at jones beach about 2 months ago. The tide was up so the first section was in water and it was raining but when the tide went down we got to finally go to our seats LOL. It was a blast even tho we were soaking wet!

Post # 4
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Busy bee

@Sapphire-Dreamer:  I can totally relate that is me at every special occasion too. I feel bad but I feel the same way, no matter how nice things he gets me are if they aren’t a ring I am totally bummed out. I am starting to feel like a spoiled brat about the whole thing-so frustrating that they just don’t get it!! Thankfully for me other than our two year anniversary on Sunday we don’t have any special days until Christmas so I get a break soon. I am already working on fake happy face for our anniversary lol. I will keep my fingers crossed for you that he makes the concert REALLY special for you but it will be a good memory no matter what! 

Post # 5
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486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

haha I love your make out story lol Have fun at the concert 🙂

Post # 6
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134 posts
Blushing bee

I’m in the same boat! My Birthday is at the end of September and my SO and I just started a 5 month long LDR. I told him I want nothing other than a ring, I told him to not get me a thing. We’ll see how that one goes. I don’t think he will follow that.

But I agree, it’s hard to really enjoy ANYTHING when you’re waiting! Does your SO give you hints, at all? Mine does a little bit and when he does I write them on my computer calendar on the day he did. Then when I’m having a bad day I go back and read them.

For example, yesterday was our first day of the LDR and I texted him and said, so since you’re gone I really think we need to have a discussion about the timeline (he has’nt given one), because it’s already super hard for you to be gone. Then he responds, well I think your would be tearing up with excitement if you what I’ve been doing today, let’s just say that. I immediately said, OK! Well, I guess if you keep those little things coming we can hold out on the discussion for a bit.

Have y’all looked at rings? 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

We put the proposal on such a high, high pedestal that everything else just sort of pales in comparison. And it sucks. Looking back, I feel like I didn’t enjoy our anniversary dinner, trip to the zoo or just little fun stuff because I was so anxious about the proposal. I will be so happy when it’s done with so I can go back to being a normal person again!

Post # 9
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647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

i hope he gets all your hints right and very soon.

p.s. incubus are awesome! i’m a lil jealous now, lol. 😉

Post # 10
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5065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Incubus are epic! So jealous! Have an amazing time.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

really don’t think that getting a ring should override how you feel about all these other things that he’s doing with you. is the ring THAT important to you? is it important enough to pale every other experience together? if that’s the case, then I think people are missing the point of what an engagement is … and it’s NOT about the ring.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Sapphire-Dreamer:  um yes .. and I didn’t covet it like a kid coveting a toy. you’re allowing a little piece of jewelry to ruin every other experience with your SO that you should be enjoying to the fullest regardless of a ring.

That’s my point.

Post # 16
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134 posts
Blushing bee

Totally understand what you mean. It’s not about the ring, it’s about spending your life with him and it being guaranteed and EVERYONE knows it!

For me, I could care less, and I’ve told my SO, that he could propose with a crackerjack ring and I wouldn’t care! It’s just the act of him wanting to commit, fully commit.

And I know you’ll enjoy the concert, you will, and there will be moments during the concert that you don’t even think about engagement, but then when all the hype is over, on your car ride home, you will think about it again and be a little depressed. I totally understand this. This is how I get.

I totally know what you’re going through and I’m going to be a hypocrit but a timeline of Sept-Vday is pretty darn soon!!! I am suspecting/hoping a proposal before December, but I really may be dreaming!

I’m totally here if you want to vent you can message me! I know what you’re going through! I can’t even talk to friends about this stuff, because they totally don’t udnerstand and judge me!!

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