(Closed) Why would anyone tell me it’s RUDE for me to not allow +1s?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are you allowing plus ones?
    No way! That IS NOT in my budget! : (21 votes)
    11 %
    Yeah, but I'm kind of being forced to, and I wish I didn't have to. : (3 votes)
    2 %
    Of course I am!!! : (66 votes)
    34 %
    I'm being selective about the plus ones I allow. : (100 votes)
    52 %
    Other completely... : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Eh. People who haven’t planned a wedding and don’t really grasp how much this stuff can cost just don’t get it sometimes. It’s nice to give +1s if you can but obviously if it’s out of your budget it’s out of your budget. Just ignore peoples comments because you’re not changing your mind regardless. People will always make rude comments when they don’t like something. You just have to ignore it.

    Post # 4
    Member
    549 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    HAHAH I hear you on that one!!!! I HATE when people assume…. like seriously… its expensive enough, and when I have 52 FIRST cousins… it gets way too expensive to add dates for all of them… plus my moms 14 siblings and their SO’s… way too many people. So, my married cousins and cousins in serious relationships where we have met the SO at other family functions (we have reunions at least 2 times per year!) then they are not invited… sorry you are going through this as well.  It’s your day and try not to stress about people’s ignorance about the cost of weddings!

    Post # 6
    Member
    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    My sister called me a bitch bc i wasnt inviting her bf of 4 months….i know she is my sister but this is also the same sister that dropped out of my party twice etc etc….

    People have their opinions and they are going to tell you unfortunatley. 🙁

    I on the other hand AGREE with what you are doing!!! 🙂

    Post # 8
    Member
    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    You need a poll option for “Other” cause I’m doing selective plus ones.

    Post # 10
    Member
    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I voted “of course I am” but didn’t read your post carefully enough.

    I’m only allowing +1s for people in steady relationships and possibly some people who have to travel far distances.

    Post # 11
    Member
    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @Angela83: Yeah that’s kind of what I’m doing, but more I’m basing it on if you are single but you don’t know the majority of people that will be there, then date. If you are single but are in the same social group (college friends) as a ton of the guests, no plus one. Maybe it’s obnoxious but I don’t care and I haven’t had any complaints yet.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1585 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I voted for no.  Not that I couldn’t accomodate other people… I just do not want people I do not know at my wedding… end of story.

    Post # 14
    Member
    2821 posts
    Sugar bee

    Oh I should change my vote to being selective. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    2538 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’d never heard of it until I got on here.

    Post # 16
    Member
    129 posts
    Blushing bee

    I agree that you shouldn’t feel forced to give someone a +1 in most situations, but I do think it’s different if you invite someone who won’t know anyone else there. In that case, I don’t think it’s rude, but I do think it’s inconsiderate not to give a +1.

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