Why Would Parents Do This

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

As a parent it STILL irks me when people let their kids disrupt events.  When DD gets fussy when we are out to eat (like Red Robin, not Maggiano’s!) we take turns eating so one of us can go walk outside with her or bounce her or whatever.  We’ve even asked to have our food packed up so we can just leave.

Post # 4
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42546 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

They don’t care.

Post # 5
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1802 posts
Buzzing bee

@Zhabeego:  I have no logical answer for this. I don’t have kids yet, but my parents always removed us from situations if our behavior became less than great in even the noisiest restaurant or formal situations. Even if there is loud music playing, loud talking, etc. somewhere, a kid crying just ruins the ambiance of any location. No one goes to a public gathering to listen to babies crying or kids screaming. 

My only thought on the matter is that a) parents have tuned out their children’s behavior because they are so used to it, and b) the parents are ignoring their children because they want to enjoy the wedding and their time out even at the cost of other people’s enjoyment. 

Post # 6
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2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Zhabeego:  Well obviously b/c their little princes and princesses are spech-yul shnowflakes and can do no wrong. Seriously. It’s a shame about the wedding you went to.

A few weeks ago, I went to a funeral. One of the funeral goers brought a screaming toddler with her. Yes, they sat at the back of the Church, but the kid screamed and yelled during the sermon/eulogy. I just found it SO disrespectful. Take your kid outside or to some side room!

Post # 7
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795 posts
Busy bee

@Zhabeego:  Ugh… My biggest peeve ever! Sadly, common sense isn’t that common, and as Julies1949 said, they simply do not care. This is also the reason I will have zero children at my wedding and reception. Nope, not even a flower girl, lol. Danelady, you are the kind of parents we all love!! 

Post # 8
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5932 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Zhabeego:  I assume that they feel whatever their child is doing, is acceptable, and in some cases, adorable…if I’m sharing the same space with a family that has a child running amok, I have no problem with informing them that their child is disturbing me, my husband or my family, since I’m CERTAIN, they would confront us if we were being loud and obnoxious.

Post # 9
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2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@DaneLady:  Parents like you are rare nowadays, but I always show these parents my appreciation with a smile instead of my usual scoff at parents who don’t do anything about their bad kids. 🙂

Post # 10
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5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MrsNewDay:  Thanks 🙂

I take DD with me to lots of things… like grocery shopping or to go to Target for diapers.  We don’t go to nice restaurants, funerals, or formal events with her!  Sometimes she gets fussy in public, it is unavoidable really, but I always have a pacifier nearby, a bottle if she gets hungry, and a toy (that doesn’t light up or sing!) to occupy her.  

I haven’t encountered temper tantrums yet, but for now what we’re doing seems to work, and seems to (so far) prevent me getting stabby death stares from strangers.

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