Post # 1
This past weekend I attended a very lovely wedding that was marred by idiot parents who let their kids fuss, talk and babble throughout the ceremony and then run wild during the reception. The servers were just thrilled having to dodge them while carrying heavy, awkward trays of food and drinks.
what really got to me about the parents is that they sat very near the front and obviously had no intention of removing the kids regardless of how much noise they made. How can they feel good or right about that? How can you sit there on your ass while your kid ruins a wedding ceremony for the couple and the other guests? There was even a little girl in front of us who, while not loud, did talk throughout the ceremony and it was annoying and distracting.
Why? Why do people insist on bringing kids to events and places they’re not old enoug to behave in? and if they insist on bringing them, why not sit in the back and you know…take the kid/s out when they start being disruptive?
Can anyone clarify the thought process there? Even if you feel like the couple doesn’t mind (they do) what about everyone else who wants to hear and enjoy the ceremony?
Post # 3
As a parent it STILL irks me when people let their kids disrupt events. When DD gets fussy when we are out to eat (like Red Robin, not Maggiano’s!) we take turns eating so one of us can go walk outside with her or bounce her or whatever. We’ve even asked to have our food packed up so we can just leave.
Post # 5
@Zhabeego: I have no logical answer for this. I don’t have kids yet, but my parents always removed us from situations if our behavior became less than great in even the noisiest restaurant or formal situations. Even if there is loud music playing, loud talking, etc. somewhere, a kid crying just ruins the ambiance of any location. No one goes to a public gathering to listen to babies crying or kids screaming.
My only thought on the matter is that a) parents have tuned out their children’s behavior because they are so used to it, and b) the parents are ignoring their children because they want to enjoy the wedding and their time out even at the cost of other people’s enjoyment.
Post # 6
@Zhabeego: Well obviously b/c their little princes and princesses are spech-yul shnowflakes and can do no wrong. Seriously. It’s a shame about the wedding you went to.
A few weeks ago, I went to a funeral. One of the funeral goers brought a screaming toddler with her. Yes, they sat at the back of the Church, but the kid screamed and yelled during the sermon/eulogy. I just found it SO disrespectful. Take your kid outside or to some side room!
Post # 7
@Zhabeego: Ugh… My biggest peeve ever! Sadly, common sense isn’t that common, and as Julies1949 said, they simply do not care. This is also the reason I will have zero children at my wedding and reception. Nope, not even a flower girl, lol. Danelady, you are the kind of parents we all love!!
Post # 8
@Zhabeego: I assume that they feel whatever their child is doing, is acceptable, and in some cases, adorable…if I’m sharing the same space with a family that has a child running amok, I have no problem with informing them that their child is disturbing me, my husband or my family, since I’m CERTAIN, they would confront us if we were being loud and obnoxious.
Post # 9
@DaneLady: Parents like you are rare nowadays, but I always show these parents my appreciation with a smile instead of my usual scoff at parents who don’t do anything about their bad kids. 🙂
Post # 10
@MrsNewDay: Thanks 🙂
I take DD with me to lots of things… like grocery shopping or to go to Target for diapers. We don’t go to nice restaurants, funerals, or formal events with her! Sometimes she gets fussy in public, it is unavoidable really, but I always have a pacifier nearby, a bottle if she gets hungry, and a toy (that doesn’t light up or sing!) to occupy her.
I haven’t encountered temper tantrums yet, but for now what we’re doing seems to work, and seems to (so far) prevent me getting stabby death stares from strangers.