"Why would you want pictures of yourself when your fat and uncomfortable"

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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943 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh no! I’m sorry that people are being so rude and unsupportive. I hope that the reason they are acting this way is because they have never experienced it.

If maternity photos might make you feel better, then ignore the immature things people say! I don’t have any to share, but I wanted to send some encouragement.

Post # 3
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226 posts
Helper bee

I haven’t been pregnant myself, but I LOVE maternity photos! They are so cute. Just ignore that comments. You are NOT fat – you are bringing another person into this world. It is such a joyous occasion, and I think you should enjoy and cherish it as much as possible

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I originally didn’t want to get maternity photos, until I saw some from a bee that were so beautiful, they made me want them too!!! There are many different styles of maternity photos, just like with any kind of pictures … you can get very posed ones in cute outfits, or you could do them more like boudoir pics, or you can do them more like a fairy or an angel. In a studio, outside, in the rain … there’s no limit to the possibilities! I didn’t like the idea of really posey ones, but when I saw the more angelic style, I was hooked and had to get them. 

The link to my thread with all the pics I liked is here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/holy-batman-its-iarebridezillas-maternity-photos-image-laden/#axzz30Nq4vmdC

But here are a few of my favorites:

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What a miserable thing to say to someone!

My maternity photos made me feel beautiful, and I love looking at them even now.

Here are a couple of mine:

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I think you should go for it! People like to be negative and miserable. Do what makes you happy! It isn’t a waste of money, or pointless..you’re marking a very important time in your life! Many photographers actually do maternity/newborn packages, so you can have them all done for one price!

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Ugh, what horrible people!  I can’t understand how people can be so very insensitive.  I think maternity photos are beautiful, and especially if you’re feeling down about your body right now, having a professional photographer really bring out the beauty of your pregnancy could definitely help you feel better!  If it’s something you want, do it, and please ignore these Negative Nancies.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

I think if you want them then you should get them!

I’m only 10 weeks and right now I don’t think I want them but when I have a beautiful baby bump I might change my mind!

Don’t let anyone think that you can’t do something just because they wouldn’t!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

This isn’t me, it’s a friend of mine.  I think it’s a gorgeous pregnant photo!  As others have said, if it’s something you want to do, then do it!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh no! What a crappy thing to say! I didn’t get maternity photos (mostly cause of budget, and feeling tired), but now I wish I had. I wish I had more photos of myself pregnant because I imagine my son will want to see them one day.

As for the feelings of disconnect, I think that’s kind of normal. Honestly, for the first few weeks of having the baby home, I was often thinking “Who are you?!?” – I felt kinda like an imposter mom, like I didn’t know him but I was supposed to instantly in love with him and it was sort of weird. But over time I fell into a routine and got to know him and how awesome he is and I couldn’t be happier! Give yourself some time, be patient with yourself, and remember that hormones mess with our feelings and thinking – it’s all okay!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You should do what you want! I havent been pregnant, but I am pretty confident that I do not want pregnancy photos when the time comes. I just find them to be very personal and I guess I would rather just have pro pics for when my baby is born! 

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

That was a rather tactless thing for someone to say, and I’m sorry it upset you. Get maternity photos done if that’s what you want to do. The photos are for you, not for other people. If they will help you feel more connected and whole, that is a good thing and should be embraced.  

That said, as someone who felt rather fat and uncomfortable while pregnant, photos were the last thing I possibly wanted. I have similar thoughts running through my head about the idea because of my personal experience with pregnancy, and I really don’t “get” the whole concept of maternity photos because of my own personal issues. The difference is that I have enough sense to keep my mouth closed, as it is not my right to impose my own personal hangups on anyone else. People can think what they like, but they should be smart enough to keep their issues to themselves. Perhaps the person who acted so rudely did so because of their own hangups, too. It likely wasn’t about you at all. It was them, their issues issues and , and their inability to filter what they say at play. You just happened to be the unfortunate pregnant lady that they snarked upon.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sassy9226:  I’m so glad we did maternity photos! I have some displayed in my daughters bedroom along w a wedding photo. It was a really special time for DH and me and I’m glad we documented it. We plan to take them this time around too and have our daughter in the pictures. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

I haven’t been pregnant yet, but I can’t wait to of maternity photos! Go for it! My sister was insecure about them too, but I think hers turned out beautifully. She was really stressed throughout her whole pregnancy though.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ballet513:  I love that blue dress on you! Such a pretty color!

Sassy9226:  Please don’t let a comment like that get you down. I had a pretty difficult time getting comfortable with my pregnancy body too and I luckily have a husband that told me I was beautiful even with an extra 20lbs of baby on me. Get those pregnancy pictures. go buy yourself a new outfit, with some fabulous accessories. Get your hair and make-up done and enjoy it.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Sassy9226:  I am sorry that someone said that to you!! I didnt realize how beautiful I was until I had my pictures taken. I had been moping around about my big pregnancy body but I was so happy with my pictures. I will forever look back on them and smile. At least you have a good reason for being a little bigger. 🙂

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