- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Just a little rant here.
I got measured for my dress last week. I got misty-eyed and giggled and was really excited…it’s a big deal getting your dress! Now, I’m 5′-2″ tall on a good day, and while I have a relatively sizeable chest for my frame, I have the hips of a 12 year old boy. I seriously look like someone stood a frog up and put pants on it. No booty, no hips, nothing. I’m fine with that, I really am; I think it works for me. What I am not fine with is having the woman who measured me act all shocked and slightly appalled that my hip measurement falls below the size zero range, but my bust hits a size 6-8. The comments about my lack of hips and triangle shape making it difficult for her to choose a dress size to order made me self conscious about my shape for the first time in a long time. She seemed scared to tell me I needed a size 6-8 dress, like I was going to lunge across the counter and strangle her! Having been studying dress shopping for several months, and having been a bridesmaid before, I am fully aware that wedding dress makers do not vanity size their products…or maybe they do! The seamstress was there and explained to the woman that it would be fine, fit the dress around my boobs and we’ll make it work. Still, I couldn’t help but feel like I had to make a lot of self-deprecating jokes about my hips to this woman so she would feel better. Wait…to make her feel better? Crazy, I know!
See, six years ago, I was 30 pounds heavier – and it was all in my gut and sides, making me very apple shaped. I worked hard to get all the weight off and have kept it off for five years. I’m incredibly proud of myself, but I have a touch of body-dysmorphic disorder and still see my middle section as less than ideal.
Anyway, I ordered the dress in the size that fits my chesticles and I’m happy with it…no ecstatic with it! The thing that bothered me the most about it is that if I had been a woman of larger proportions, would the girl at the shop been as comfortable making the comments that she did about me? It seems that if you’re small framed, people feel more comfortable commenting on your weight – particularly in a derogatory way. Anyone else experience this?