- 3 years ago
- Wedding: April 2018
My best friend of 28 years and I had a pretty horrendous falling out this spring when her FI started giving me the run around, and being pretty foul and abusive to me when I began to press him about the money he owed me for her engagement ring…long story short, it didn’t end well, but I did get my money and she and I have not spoken since…..
Life goes on and I kept on keepin on…like I do, I made sure to avoid any people that see them regularly and just figured I’d never see or hear from her again…
I get a sympathy card in the mail from her yesterday, about my Grandmother, which is nice…but totally unexpected…Mr. 99 is going to call her parents and let them know that in addition to Grandma, we’re losing my Grandpa who was a long time friend of theirs as well…and he’ll probably let them know my dog passed away a week ago too…these people helped raise me…so it makes sense to keep them informed. Just because she and I aren’t speaking, that in no way affects our relationship with her parents…
Anyway….I got that card, and now she’s going to know that the shit has literally hit the fan around here and I’m totally flummoxed.
Was she just being cordial? I certainly didn’t expect to get a card from her, she didn’t have to do that….her message was hand written and ended with, “Let me know if there’s anything I can do..”
Mr. 99 has forbidden me from doing anything about it for now, I’m much too volatile and raw at this point to be able to take another emotional blow like having her sucker punch me with this card because she has some agenda related to her wedding or money…and I’m going to listen to him just now, because honestly, I’m out of control, I can admit that.
I’m just proud of myself for holding it together last night, I was sitting by his bed, holding his hand, telling him I loved him and that I was going to miss him, but if he saw the way out, to take it….he squeezed my hand, looked at me with those pale green eyes and said, “Meet me in Niagara.”
It’s not over yet, we’ve got my Grandmother’s internment tomorrow, her memorial on Saturday and Grandpa on the back burner….this sympathy card threw me for a loop and stirred up a bunch of stuff that I wasn’t aware of…
Am I overthinking this or what?