Whyyyyyy do people think its ok to….

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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6407 posts
Bee Keeper

They feel more free to comment on the things that society deems desirable.

I’m a tall woman too, and I love it (being tall, that is). Oddly, people don’t really mention it to me that often… despite the fact that I usually wear heels, as well.

Post # 4
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626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@nearlymarriedlass:  I feel you… although vicariously. My FI is 6’3 and about 140lb, he gets the tall and skinny comments all the time. He’s usually about 160lb – so still thin for his height – but he’s recovering from a bad infection and open heart surgery and lost a scary amount of weight. The amount of people at his hospital check ups that have said “wow, you didn’t look that tall when you were laying in bed” has been ridiculous…

Meanwhile, I’m relatively short 5’4 and fat. I get called short all the time, espcially next to FI. I work with a woman who’s well under 5 foot tall, and she cops it all day long. Have to say it’s nice not being the shortest in the room.

Post # 5
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141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Wow I get called that I am short all the time. Sometimes by complete strangers. People like to voice their opinions, especially when it isn’t needed.

Post # 6
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474 posts
Helper bee

I get comments about being short all of the time by strangers. I’m totally secure about my height. I got over those kind of comments while in high school. And there’s absolutely nothing I can do to change it, so why fret over it?

What I don’t like however is when some people have said it in a negative context. For example, “Wow. You’re short…(frowning face) well, you can always wear high heels to make you taller.” Um, okay? I didn’t see my height in the negative lighting you did, thanks stranger whose opinion I didn’t ask for.

Post # 7
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859 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Because somethings (eg calling a man short or anyone fat) have negative connotations and can be interpreted as insults so those topics are usually avoided.

Its pretty obvious lol.

 

Post # 8
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5087 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I get the fat & short comments all the time from mean strangers and even family – nice huh! 

 

Post # 9
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2880 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

I get Why are you so skinny!!

it drives me crazy especially when said by a bigger person I would love to answer back well why are you so fat but I NEVER would because its rude.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

DH is tall (6’6″) and gets that all the time….but he has a friend that is 7 foot tall. I cannot tell you how many times we’ve been out w/him and someone will say “WOW, you are really tall!” I’ve never once said that in my life to someone….it’s just rude! But I’m also a natural redhead and I get sick of people asking if I’m fake or not…

 

 

Post # 11
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3355 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@texasbee:  I doubt you’re Asian/White mix with naturally red hair, are you? I have a friend who is part Japanese with flaming red hair au naturale lol the number of times she’s been asked. Sheesh.

Post # 12
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15072 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I get short comments all the time. I even get people who think it’s OK to pat me on the head. Last guy that did it will probably never done it to anyone again, I told him if he patted me on the head on more time he would be paying rosie alimony. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@strawbs:  LOL…nope, I’m Irish/German (that’s where the red hair comes from) but both sides of my family are Native American too…so that’s why I can tan. My hair is more auburn (it’s getting darker as I get older) but if I go in the sun, my highlights are ridiculous. I think that’s what throws people off…like I’m using 5 boxes of highlights to get the different colors.

Post # 14
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11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@texasbee:  Man, I’m Irish and Native American and all I do is burn and freckle! I do have some gorgeous dark auburn hair, though!

I get the skinny comments all the time. Not a lotttt lately, since I don’t work retail anymore, but they’re still inappropriate. I don’t need to be told that I need to eat something, nor that I “disappear” when I turn to the side. I actually DO need to watch what I eat and exercise to maintain the way that I look. Commenting on someone’s weight is never approrpriate. You wouldn’t go around telling people that they’re fat and need to stop eating, right?

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sorta related to a privilege thing. Being tall is generally considered “good.” Being thin is generally considered “good.” So being very tall or very skinny, while occasionally mocked, is still mostly accepted as “better” than their opposites. (Quotes because it’s not my opinion, just a general annoying societal beauty standard thing.) So people feel more free to speak about the “better” side of those things… even though they really shouldn’t. I’ve never met a tall or thin person finds those comments especially welcome. 

Post # 16
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4827 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

I wish I were tall and skinny and people pointed it out all the time.

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