Post # 1
Quite a mix hu? My Fiance is Agnostic (spiritual but not religious) and I am Wiccan (form of Paganism). I do not want a highly religious ceremony but we do plan on including “tying the knot” and a couple of other things. We have found an awesome Interfaith Minister and we are very excited to have her do our Ceremony. If anyone has had experience with this at all please feel free to share! Thank you!
Post # 3
We’re both atheists with a strong humanist philosophy, and our family is very Lutheran… (my uncle is a pastor!) so we’re dealing with all the hard things that I imagine you’ll deal with as well – mostly, the absence of the Judeo-Christian God. The boards have been so helpful to me (especially the secular board) because it helps just to know that other people are going through the same thing.
Post # 4
You can do a beautiful handfasting at your ceremony- I know you know all about this, but folks did those on a regular basis in Celtic cultures, even after the advent of Christianity. What else are you incorporating?
Post # 5
Thanks gals and good luck lily! We are doing a version of the handfasting and explaining to the guests that that’s where the term “tying the knot” came from! 🙂 Since it is an outdoor ceremony our Minister recommended a Sand Ceremony instead of the Unity Candle. This works great because this is where we are going to include our son. We are still determining what else to do and we are supposed to have a meeting with our Minister to discuss it soon!
Post # 6
We don’t have your particular mix of traditions, but we are doing handfasting. If you find any problems with your Christian family members, just tell them that most Christian churches do a form of handfasting (ie. minister or priest putting the stole over the couple’s hands and separating them at the end with the Bible), and that this custom first came from the older pre-Christian traditions. Sometimes it helps for people to see that seemingly ‘foreign’ customs are actually very similar to the traditions they are used to.
Post # 7
YES YES! My husband and I had a handfasting and our wedding was pretty much VERY pagan (although we did include one Catholic tradition for my parents’ pleasure). We didn’t cast a circle formally, but we did consecrate the space and because the officiant, my husband, and I were the only people that shared our faith (and heck, many of his side didn’t even know it was our faith to begin with) it ended up feeling like a very intimate ceremony even though there were many there 🙂
We invited people important to us in our lives to fast us with 4 ribbons, with our officiant (my now FIL) fasting the final “Spirit” elemental ribbon. At the last minute, he decided to include a few paragraphs about our faith and where these traditions come from. So, in a sense, we were “outed” in front of everyone, which was unexpected but very empowering. Hey – for better or worse, right?