(Closed) widowed encore brides

posted 7 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
Member
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t feel odd about this at all.  I know my late husband (bless is soul) would be very happy for me that I am not dwelling, and living life to the fullest.  Not wasting away while life happens around me.  I couldn’t do that, to me, nor to my precious 12 year old daughter.  I remember my late husband with fond memories, and we talk about him often, as we do about my fiancee’s late wife.  They were a part of our lives for a very long time, it is a part of who we are. End of story.  I still wear my wedding ring and my late husbands wedding ring around my neck, and he has his on his pinky finger (either the ring shrunk or his fingers grew..lolWink

Post # 5
Member
125 posts
Blushing bee

Hi ladies,

I’m a widow and I’m getting remarried.  My late husband passed away almost two years ago this October.  It feels surreal planning a wedding now to be honest, especially since this really is the FIRST time I’m doing this.  My first husband and I eloped, so I am doing everything different this time.  I have to pinch myself sometimes and realize that this IS my life and I’m not pretending or dreaming.

@cardus  I’ve cried about my late husband while my Fiance held me too.  it was very odd.  

I never thought I’d be in this situation.  My late husband seems like a dream even though we were married for 10 years.  I can’t believe he died.  He and I were both 29 when he passed.  However, I have to say I am lucky.  Not lucky because I’m a widow, but I feel so lucky to have found two men in a lifetime that love me so much.  I’m sad I can’t spend the rest of my life with my late husband, but he gave me four beautiful children and those were his ever lasting gift to me.  And I really think he sent Fi our way.  Not everyone gets a 2nd chance at love and life like we have, and I am grateful for it.

Post # 7
Member
125 posts
Blushing bee

@cardus: have you been to widowedvillage.org? i love that site!! It is a fabulous place to connect with other widows and widowers.  I’m actually going to “camp widow” in San Diego next month and it will be an amazing time

Post # 9
Member
68 posts
Worker bee

Another YWBB alum here!  I’m in a similar boat, my husband will have been gone 3 years ago this November.  My current guy has never been married (one very long and serious relationship that left him crushed, but no marriage).  We’re both so happy to have found each other, despite being ‘damaged’ in the eyes of so many others who don’t understand our situation. We talk about my late husband frequently, he is never intimidated by it, and understands my need to talk or cry or yell, and does his best just to be there. 

The first time around I did the big church wedding, 200+ guests, the big cake, etc.  I never really cared about it then (I was one of those rare women who just wanted to be married, I didn’t care about the frills of a wedding) and this time around I’d rather just do something small.  I asked my guy if this was something HE would want, because if having a wedding was important to him, it wouldn’t be fair to deny him of it just because I was lucky enough to have had it already.  We both feel so lucky to have found one another, the ‘wedding’ part is the least important part of the getting married…which is a good thing but it means we can’t decide on anything LOL. 

Post # 11
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189 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Wow, it’s nice to see fellow ywbbers here.  It makes me think I should go back and post to remind them there still is a happily ever after.  I certainly wasn’t sure three and a half years ago.

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