Post # 1
Well my fiance and I live out of state so it all gets very tricky. But our families still haven’t met each other and I wanted a way for everyone to actually meet – before the actual wedding.But apparently i can’t throw my own.
We just got back from a trip up for my sisters wedding so everyone said their congrats and got to see the ring then. But it was just stopping by and his mom and gma gave us a gift too. My family was happy to see me and they got to see my ring. But no one got me a card or anything so i wonder if it would be wierd to have an engagement party since we’ve already been engaged for almost 2 months and they’ve all said congrats already. Maybe my engagement just isn’t a big deal or it just is too hard with us being out of state as we’d have to make a special trip up. Which obviously costs money so idk maybe i can’t even afford it.
His mother wanted to when we were up but we didnt have time and my family was obviously way too busy with my sisters wedding anyway. So i guess its not happening because no one mentioned it when i was up. It makes me sad. My sister had one and it was a huge deal. I got hell for not making the trip up for it. Her mil threw it for her though so it wasn’t my family paying.
It just makes me sad like my engagement isn’t a big deal. And i guess its not. Maybe when your with the guy for over 3 years and you live together on your own… you forfit the rights because its just expected at that point.
Post # 3
I won’t say your engagement isn’t a big deal because it is as you stated everyone said congrats and some gave you gifts. however, when you were up it was for your sisters wedding, which makes that her weekend. I’m sorry you hadn’t seen your family in the time from when you got engaged until then, but it was her weekend so talking about planning another party well in the middle of the other one was probably not on their minds. Now that her wedding is over, attention can be paid to yours, because you definitely deserve to have the spotlight now that it is your turn!
That being said, an engagement party might not be in the cards, not everyone has one. That was really nice of your sisters Mother-In-Law to throw them one, and yours did offer just timing wasn’t right for that weekend. You and your Fiance could always plan another trip up and even if it’s not a huge party, could have a nice dinner so your parents could meet. everyone celebrates in different ways so don’t feel less important just because you didn’t have an engagement party, your still having a wedding and all the fun that comes with it!
Post # 4
My Fiance and I did our own engagment party to introduce our famliies and it was great. It wasnt nothing fancy just grilling and beer/wine. I will say just b/c its not a big deal to others (and it just could be timing)doesnt mean you have to down play it. If its a big deal to you then make it one.
Post # 5
I would host your own party. Fiance parents insisted on throwing one for us, but if they hadn’t, we wouldnt of had one.
Post # 6
I think most couples hose their own engagement party and there’s nothing wrong with this. You don’t normally get gifts at these parties, so it’s not a gift grab.
Post # 7
Everyone told us we needed to have one to introduce the families- but no one offered to host it and I’d read in etiquette guides that hosting it yourself is a big no-no so we never had one. If it means a lot for you to have one I’d ask someone to host it- it seems kind of strange to me to host a party honoring yourself. But I am kind of an introvert anyways =)
Post # 8
I have yet to attend an engagement party, they are definitely not the norm in my area.