(Closed) Wierd to ask for an engagement party?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I won’t say your engagement isn’t a big deal because it is as you stated everyone said congrats and some gave you gifts. however, when you were up it was for your sisters wedding, which makes that her weekend. I’m sorry you hadn’t seen your family in the time from when you got engaged until then, but it was her weekend so talking about planning another party well in the middle of the other one was probably not on their minds. Now that her wedding is over, attention can be paid to yours, because you definitely deserve to have the spotlight now that it is your turn!

That being said, an engagement party might not be in the cards, not everyone has one. That was really nice of your sisters Mother-In-Law to throw them one, and yours did offer just timing wasn’t right for that weekend. You and your Fiance could always plan another trip up and even if it’s not a huge party, could have a nice dinner so your parents could meet. everyone celebrates in different ways so don’t feel less important just because you didn’t have an engagement party, your still having a wedding and all the fun that comes with it!

Post # 4
416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Fiance and I did our own engagment party to introduce our famliies and it was great. It wasnt nothing fancy just grilling and beer/wine. I will say just b/c its not a big deal to others (and it just could be timing)doesnt mean you have to down play it. If its a big deal to you then make it one.

Good luck

Post # 5
2416 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would host your own party. Fiance parents insisted on throwing one for us, but if they hadn’t, we wouldnt of had one.

Post # 6
3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think most couples hose their own engagement party and there’s nothing wrong with this. You don’t normally get gifts at these parties, so it’s not a gift grab.

Post # 7
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Everyone told us we needed to have one to introduce the families- but no one offered to host it and I’d read in etiquette guides that hosting it yourself is a big no-no so we never had one.  If it means a lot for you to have one I’d ask someone to host it- it seems kind of strange to me to host a party honoring yourself.  But I am kind of an introvert anyways =)

Post # 8
1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have yet to attend an engagement party, they are definitely not the norm in my area.

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