Wild hair colours

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Wild hair, can i ask someone to change it
    If you ask you are crossing the line into crazy : (36 votes)
    28 %
    it's fine to ask she plays with her hair so much she wont even mind : (23 votes)
    18 %
    you love her don't change her don't even think about asking : (64 votes)
    49 %
    I would ask she is gonna want to be part of your day she needs to fit in the day : (7 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    783 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I think it would be really rude to ask. You knew who she was and what she looked like before inviting her to be in your wedding. It wouldn’t be very nice to ask her to change.

    Post # 4
    980 posts
    Busy bee

    I think asking her to do something more natural is a bit rude. she might decide to change it back from pink by then anyway so mentioning it now is super rude. Plus, if that’s who she is then why wouldn’t you want her to look like herself? She may even dye her hair to match your colours! 🙂 

    Post # 5
    4698 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Kissed_by_lightning:  As is often said on the bee, bridesmaids are not dress up dolls. They’re your loved ones, and hopefully you chose them because you love them for them, and want their personality to shine as they stand beside you.

    As someone who used to dye crazy colors all the time, and who will have pink hair on my wedding day, I’d be pretty bummed if my friend told me to change my color just for that one day, especially since I usually plan these things out pretty carefully for minimal hair damage. I’d feel like she was prioritizing that look over the human element.

    (The only people I allow to tell me to mute my style are those who are paying me to do a job.)

    Post # 6
    1482 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

    OK im going to go against the grain here and say just talk to her. 

    Bridesmaids are supposed to be your friends. I never understood why as soon as they assume that role it becomes impossible to talk to them. Its not like this friend has always been pink she is constantly changing so I dont see why “hey what are you thiking about doing with your hair for the wedding?” a normal girlfriend question becomes forbidden. 

    Just talk to her – im pretty sure she wont want to clash with your red and mint colours but If she insists on keeping the pink for it then it is what it is. 

    Post # 7
    309 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I think you shouldn’t mention it until she agrees to be your BM. And to be honest you probably won’t have to worry about it, she will possibly ask you about colour schemes/matching/clashing etc.

    If you do eventually ask her, and she gets offended, you will have to suck it up if you want her to stand up with you!

    Post # 9
    6633 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Please don’t as PP said you love your friend for who she is, not her hair color. 

    Post # 10
    359 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I didn’t vote because I did TELL my sister she was NOT having blue bangs at my wedding…


    IF she had always played with her hair and had wild colours I would NEVER have had an issue with it…she started dying it weird colours only a couple months ago , and I totally believe it’s to try to take some attention at the wedding (she is like this whenever she is not in the spotlight)…


    She is changing it, but having blue streaks in her hair (but not the bangs)..but the “natural colour” she was supposed to dye it to is NOT natural at all…she looks like ronald mcdonald….but, I’m not fighting on that….my photographer can change it in pics so when I look at it  in the future that’s not all I’m staring at….


    If I were you, since your friend always has wild colours, I would not try to change her….

    Post # 11
    138 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My hair is often different shades of blue and or purple. If i were a bridesmaid I would dye it to suit the dress colour so I didnt look silly any photos. I wouldnt mind if the bride talked to ref hair colour and clashing but I wont like to be told or asked to chanage it by anyone. Just chat to her closer to day after she is your friend first not just a bridesmaid. 

    Post # 12
    5207 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @Kissed_by_lightning:  you had me right up until you said you don’t want her to clash with the dress or decor. C’mon now. She’s a person, not a tablecloth! Let her do what she wants with her hair.

    Post # 13
    6977 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think it’s okay to ask her if she wouldn’t mind having it a more natural color for the wedding, IF you are prepared for her to possibly say no. It’s her hair, and she’s not an accessory.

    Post # 14
    535 posts
    Busy bee

    @darkflame:  I think the OP said that the friend did NOT have any wild colors until now…

    Post # 15
    412 posts
    Helper bee

    I think you should mention her hair/fears of clashing etc. But only when you’re looking at dresses, and just sort of say something like “any idea what colour your hair will be at the wedding? We need to make sure it will go with the dress. Have you had any thoughts? I’m planning on red dresses”

    If she changes it lots, this shouldn’t be a huge issue to say. But do not demand or anything, and prepare for her to say something off the wall. You have ot accept her hair may be crazy and not match, this is part of her and something you have to accept if you’re going to ask her.

    Post # 16
    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I have a friend with wild hair, which I wouldn’t usually care about except in this case, it looks awful on her 🙁 I don’t have advice on how to handle this, but I totally emphasize. 

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