Post # 1
So I saw that this was actually a post from someone before, but I’m having a similar freak out. I am worried that people won’t come to the wedding, I have 14 confirmed guests who are in the wedding party 🙂 lol, so that’s not what I”m counting. I like someone said was/am fairly unpopular. I do have a few friends. I have an estranged family, both my parents are deceased and my brother and I haven’t spoken since our dad died… so not a lot coming from my side probably. And my fiance, who is a nice guy, isn’t a guys guy and seems to have problems making friends still. We had to ask my soon to be SIL to ask her fiance to be his best man…its terrible.
I’m also anxious because I worry that we will spend all this money for a few people… and I guess I will have to face the embarrassment that I had when I was younger and no one really liked me. I feel that maybe we should have gotten married at the justice of the peace, but I felt that my parents would have wanted this. 🙁 I”m confused and anxious.
My hometown is about an hour and a half away… so that’s another issue, I don’t know who would bother driving up. Okay, yes focus on the friends who are coming and how much they mean to me… but it brings up old memories.
Post # 3
@KathyMc: I don’t know if it’s too late to cancel, but why not have a wedding that you would expect less people to come to anyway, like a destination or a cruise?
Post # 4
@KathyMc: Well you get your final RSVP count and you call the caterer and change it to around that amount. Who wants to pay extra money for people who you don’t REALLY want there to celebrate. I would rather have a handful of great people than a bunch of aquaintances or people i felt obligated to invite.
If it isn’t too late, go with a smaller wedding – kinda sounds like that is what you wanted?
Post # 5
@AnonymousCupcake: I like this idea too. Especially if you have a few people that are important to you, it would make it special and you would get to hang out and have more memories than just from the wedding night.
Post # 6
@KathyMc: I’m sorry you are dealing with this. I’m really worried about attendance at my wedding too–which is why like @AnonymousCupcake: suggested, I really want a destination wedding. I’m hoping that it will mean that not too many people come, maybe SO and I get to do something really neat and different, and we can keep it affordable.
Just focus on the money you will save by not having a lot of extra people!!
Post # 7
You think you have problems?! I have 5 people to invite… and my fiancee has 150 LOL mostly family whom I’ve never met, and not all speak English 🙂
Just remember that this day if for YOU!! It does not matter who comes or how fancy the food is (you do not have to overspend or show off)– this wedding is about your love and all you need to focus on that day is your new husband and the love you have for eachother 🙂 that day is for YOU to celebrate! doesn’t matter who is there or not