Post # 1
So my guy and I just had a big discussion about financial aid situation. It got me thinking that after we get married I will still have a couple of years left of school plus a more than likely unpaid internship. He is just going back to school this fall and will more than likely take 4+ years as he wants to work full time. Just wondering if any of you feel overwhelmed with saving for a wedding while racking up the loans for school? I can imagine that we both won’t be out of school until about 4 years or so after our wedding. I know it will be hard, we’ve had lots of discussions over this, but we know we can get through the hard times. Sometimes it’s just hard to deal and cope with knowing the hard times ahead! Can anyone relate?
Post # 3
i understand. i have one more semester left of school (besides law school) but my FI has basically 4 years to go. I’m taking a year off to work but he wants to become a cop so we will have an income while we go back part time. After our wedding, i am more concerned with the finances then school, if i have to go part time, that is fine but i want to be able to live comfortably so i would tell you to draw out a plan for you and your SO so that you can stay on track with school, bills and just having a fulfilling relationship.
Post # 4
We are an older couple than most in this situation (27 & 33) but we are both planning to go back to school a couple of months after our wedding. We are handling it by (1) having lots of savings from our careers up to this point, (2) having a very, very small wedding, and (3) doing our best to get financial aid ahead of time.
For us, the process of applying for graduate school and creating dreams for the future has been a huge part of our bonding as a couple. I can’t wait to go through school with him, tight as our finances are bound to be.
Post # 5
I’ll finish my undergrad 3 weeks before the wedding. FH is planning to start college within a year of that. He’ll have at least four years, and then I want to get my Master’s. One of us will probably be in school for the next 6 years. More if he decides to get his Master’s too. We’re hoping to get out without any loans, and just get other forms of financial aid.
I’m going to be a teacher, so finances will be tight for a long time, but it’ll be worth it when we’re both finished.
Post # 6
Im paying off loans right now but am planning on going back to school in the fall. after the wedding. when we were first together i thought i would be done with school but things happen. my college went bankrupt. i switched majors and now i want to take it further. my FI is a fisherman and last year we just got a new boat 60,000 loan. then we found out this month we need to take the boat to a different town and work further on it. which means another loan, 20,000. let me tell you its getting stressfull!! wedding in may. now we have someone telling us we need to work on the engine in the fall. ahhh!!! its been F-ed up latly. so i feel your pain. but my FI had said if we wait till we have money to get married, we never will.
Post # 7
@mjax: I was planning on being done with nursing school a year and a half after we got married, but I decided to transfer schools and go for a BSN instead of an RN. So I have 3 years left. Up side – I’ll also have a minor when I graduate.
My FI is an electrician app, so he still have 3.5 years left til he is licensed. But he gets paid to go to school and work.
I do get over whelmed a little when I think about how much my loans will build up and how I won’t be able to work a lot during my last 2 years. But my FI is really supportive and in the end I know we can do it.
Post # 8
We’re even older (36 and 34) but I did go back to school when I was 31-36 to do a master’s. I worked full time while going to grad school. I lived alone and had a mortgage. I refused to use borrowed money (loans) to pay for other borrowed money (mortgage). I also would not move in with H until I was done with school. Something about really wanting to do it on my own.
This wedding; will you be using credit to pay for it? Or just slowing saving money from jobs to pay for it and deal with loans later when out of school?
I would never use any student loan money to pay for the wedding and make sure to work as many hours as possible.
Post # 9
Thanks ladies! I know I’m not the only one but sometimes it’s nice to see how everyone else is doing. 🙂
Post # 10
My Fiance is done with school but I’ll still have one or two months left of nursing school left after we get married which isn’t bad. What’s gonna be a little crazy is that all the wedding stuff will be happening in the midst of finals, kaplan exams, clinical rotations, care plans…! Lol
Post # 11
He’s graduating before we officially get engaged. He’s graduating this December (BS in CompSci) and the proposal should come in January or February (but maybe earlier!!) I’m getting my AS in Business Admin (thanks to some transferring issues) and intend on finishing my BS in Finance. Ideally, he’s gonna get a job somewhere out of state so I’ll take off the following semester (Sp’14) and do my last 3-5 semesters wherever we move starting Fall14. We’ll be getting married November 2014 (so maybe I’ll start spring15 again?) and I’ll graduate spring16. Then I want to get a Master of Finance at some point and he might get a Masters in Math or Physics or CompSci so that’ll happen at some point.
Post # 12
Totally relate to you! I’ll be getting married, and i have not set the date due to me finishing school. Luckily I have a year left and we are planning on getting married Jan 2014. And i will God Willing graduate May 2014. 🙂 I will go back to get my masters, and he is very supportive of it.
Post # 13
FI and I are in grad school, but FI will finish about six months after our wedding. I will still have at least a year and a half to go. We are currently planning our wedding, studying full-time, working part-time, and looking for full-time jobs! We’re in our 30s, so luckily, we’ve saved up for this, but it will be nice to not have to worry about all of this craziness in the near future.
Post # 14
I work full time but hell have 1.5 yrs left on his degreee post wedding ):