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    SanDiegoAli    September 18, 2010   San Diego

    Gah!  With 28 days to go I just found out that one of FI's groomsman (his brother) does NOT have a black suit like he originally told us.  He has a charcoal gray one.

    I don't know how to respond to this.  I've kind of prided myself on being laid back about the details, I don't want anyone to ever utter the "B" word about me (bridezilla).

    What would you do?

     

    FI will be wearing a black suit as will the other GM's.

     
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    crayfish    September 11, 2010   Berkeley, CA

    Well, it won't look black, if that's what you mean. It may make him stand out enough that he looks like the best man, honestly (like a MOH that wears a slightly different dress). If girls have to buy different dresses for every wedding, is it really that big of a deal for him to buy a black suit? At least he'll be able to wear it again.

     
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    Lydeeyah08    August 20, 2011  

    OH my!!.. that's a situation all right! =( If I were you, I'd not allow one tux to be such a different shade. I think they look totally different! especially in pictures..

    Do you have your fiance's tux yet? if so, have him bring his tux over.. and compare the two.

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    Go with him to a tux shop like men's warehouse.. there he can see for himself the color difference! plus, i'm 99% sure the employees there will  say "no way! don't do it!"... this should take at least SOME pressure off of you! it's not like you're being super picky if they have the same worry as you!

    I don't know though. That's tough! Good luck!!

     
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    MrsWall2B    April 14, 2011   Tallahassee, Florida

    Its going to stand out when they are all standing next to each other in balck suits...the same goes for an ashy or faded black suit. It just wont look the same..

    Is it really too much for him to get a balck suit?

    Good Luck

     
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    killerpenguins05    April 14, 2012   Clemson, SC wedding in Columbia, SC

    JC Penney has cheap suits if you can catch them on sale. We got my FI's suit for $212.

     
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    SouthernTulip    October 23, 2010   Georgia

    Charcoal and black can be really close or super different.  Like an ex of mine had a "charcoal" suit and i would swear that it was black...then again my suit is "charcoal" and it's totally a gray color.  I would just have him bring it over and compaire to something you know is black and see how different it is :) 

    As far as him getting another suit, Kholes (not sure if you have one in your area) is a wonderful place to find good quality suits for super good prices.  And if he doesn't want to buy Men's Wearhouse is always a good option.

    Good Luck!

     
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    Mrs.KMM    July 17, 2010   Atlanta, GA (wedding in Indianapolis, IN)

    I'd ask him to get a black suit.  Charcoal grey and black won't look ANYTHING alike and he will definitely stand out in pictures.  I really don't think that is asking too much or being a bridezilla at all!

     
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    Asparagus    October 15, 2011  

    I think it's going to look different and you will see they are different.  I would ask him to get a suit that is black. 

     

     
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    mrs.rader    August 29, 2009   CT

    Maybe he could rent a black suit?

     
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    SanDiegoAli    September 18, 2010   San Diego

    Thanks for all the support ladies.

    He IS going to be renting a black suit, thankfully.  I was literally losing sleep over this.

     
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    I disagree with everyone...We got charcoal grey suits from Mens Wearhouse for our wedding and when I saw the, I was actually annoyed bc I thought they WERE black...Charcoal grey is not your typical grey and I guarantee no one will notice a thing...For reference, here's a photo of our groomsmen, would you think the suits were black or charcoal grey?Will charcoal gray look SUPER different from black? :  wedding Wedding 25

     
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    mrstilly    May 15, 2010   Ithaca, NY

    Tuxedo Junction (here in NY) rents suits. Mens Warehouse doesn't though, at least not here. Mens Warehouse has major sales pretty often, and if the groomsman is not really tall, he could probably get a suit at a great price. My DH and the BM were 6'6" and 6'8" and the tall suits were never on sale.

    I would definitely ask him to buy/rent/borrow a black suit. He will stand out on the day and in photos.

     
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    mrstilly    May 15, 2010   Ithaca, NY

    @trailmix: Even though charcoal grey looks close to black, when you put them next to each other there is a difference. DH had a charcoal suit and the BM had a balck suit, and there was a big difference side by side, and in the test photos we took.

     
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    ddubzz    June 5, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    Yeah I think they will look different when compared next to each other.  DH has a black suit and a charcoal grey one... you can tell the difference in color.  I'm glad your groomsman's agreed to rent a black suit!  :)

     
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    blingybride    February 2011  

    I don't think asking everyone to wear BLACK would make you a "B"ridezilla in any way. Esp. since he said his suit WAS black and it turns out it isn't. It may "look" black on its own but next to everyone else in Black a charcoal "gray" suit WILL stand out. And if anyone should standout it's the GROOM. I would definitely ask him to get himself a black suit, whether rented or purchased or borrowed.

     
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    Selene221    October 31, 2012  

    Without seeing the colors side by side, it is impossible to say. Every manufacturer out there has their own idea of what colors will have certain names and vice versa. You can't say with 100% certaintly that the charcoal grey in question will stand out since it may be close enough to black that it isn't noticeable or it may not, since a different charcoal gray could easily be very light with a distinctive difference. Unless it's very obviously a light gray, I can't imagine why it would be that much of an issue personally.

     
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    Encore    May 2011   Maryland

    I'm glad he's renting a suit. Which charcoal gray may look black sometimes, it will NOT when it is actually surrounded by black. (It's like black and navy. Sure those navy shoes looked black when you grabbed them from your closet, but when you put them on with your black pants, you knew they didn't match.) Sounds like the problem was resolved the best way possible.

     

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