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Only our nephew was invited...the ring bearer. And his other grandma (my SIL's MIL) took him home by 8pm or so.
I think it might depend on who all has kids, we were kinda at that age where our friends and cousins had younger kids, but not all that many had kids, and people our parents age had grown up kids, so we only invited them if we were still close to them. So since there were only like 6 kids, it wasn't a big deal, if everyone had kids and we were talking about an extra 30 people, we might have had to do things differently.
we had lost of kids. We had a separate kids room with DVDs and games and crafts and stuff, but they were tearing up teh dance floor (in a good way) and provided some amazing entertainment. My 2 year old niece pulled off her flower girl dress and ran around the dance floor in a diaper and was like "POPPA! LOOKIT ME! KELLY LOOKIT ME! MATT! LOOKIT ME!". It was REALLY funny. Those memories are the best ones
only the flower girl and ring bearer
everyone else under 16 isnt invited - it would be wayyyy too many kids any other way
Only the flower girl and we expect her to be picked up pretty early.
I will only have my first cousins at my wedding... they're all pretty young as I was the first grandchild and I couldn't imagine getting married without them there! My brother and FI (AHHH THAT's THE FIRST TIME I WROTE THAT!!! WE JUST GOT ENGAGED LAST NIGHT!!!!) his sister doesn't have kids yet either.
if you have 8 children, that is 8 adult guests seats. there's already enough problems trying to get all your adult guestlist in for your wedding. plus, you don't know if kids will act up or want attention. do you really want a kid screaming or crying in the background during your ceremony?
that's why we chose to only have the flower girl and ring bearer. our best man has three kids but they will stay home with the grandparents. at weddings i've been to, parents usually leave the kids at home...it's almost like a nice break for them cuz they need it once in a while!
Actually, the ring bearer isn't family, but we are very close. There is only one other guest who is not family and under the age of 35, but her grandmother & my mom were very close and I was MOH for her mom (we grew up like cousins--not sisters b/c we didn't live in the same town).
I have told friends that they can bring their children to the ceremony (apparently little girls who are elementary school aged LOVE weddings), but it is essentially and adult only reception (with the exception of out of town family).
Well my little brother is 11 so he'll obviously be there. Then there's the ring bearer and flower girl, 1.5 and 8. Plus, my annoying Aunt through a fit so we had to let her odd child come, who is 9 (I'm really annoyed about that). We didn't want children because 1. Paying $30 for them to eat a single chicken finger wouldn't be cool at all. and 2. We wanted the parents to have a fun date night! I'm sure people will be mad but oh well!
@jwedbee - that's true, I am a little worried about having kids crying or whatnot during the ceremony, but if they do, I'll just hope the parents take them outside for a bit. And if it interrupts a little bit, well... We're still getting married, and ten years from now, no one is going to remember that crying kid, and I'll still have a wedding with family and kids that I care about.
I guess I have it easier anyway, because we're having a church ceremony but an outdoor reception, so I don't have to worry about seating, but I can definitely see how that would be a concern.
That's the beauty of weddings - we can all do whatever suits us best. Kids, no kids, cake, cupcakes, garter toss, no garter toss, whatever. :)
I would have voted OTHER. As much as I ADORE them, I didn't want kids other than my nephew who's our RB. However, FI wanted to invite kids and said his aunts & uncles would definitely not come if they couldn't bring their children (which I find ridiculous, but that's another story). I love kids, they crack me up, and we're even having a fairly kid-friendly wedding our on the farm, BUT I have about 25 first cousins, half of whom are married and have 2-4 kids each. If we open the gates to "kids" they will practically out number the adults! FI & his brother are the oldest kids on his side, he has 10 cousins under 15; I have only 3. So we're inviting first cousin kids only, no children of our cousins (whcih only affects me). Since my cousins kids are all the same age and play with the couple of younger cousins I am inviting, I KNOW I'm going to hear about it, but we had to draw a line somewhere. The numbers right now are 123 adults & 13 kids (+ 2 <6 month infants). It was our first big compromise when we first started planning=)
For me family is family - doesn't matter how old. If you are able to fly out for our wedding, we will welcome you and your family with open arms.
Where's the other option?! haha Anyways, we are including children 12 and older at our wedding. FI and I didn't want kids at all at the wedding, but I negotiated with my mom and we are going with 12 and up. This works well because we have family and close familu friends with teenage children.
I'm definitely inviting kids since the majority of my family is out of town, and they all have kids. If they had to leave their kids at home, miles away, no one would come to my wedding. My family always invites kids to weddings, and there has never been a problem with anyone misbehaving. I love the kids in my family, and I can't imagine them not being there.
Thanks for the replies so far! I added "other" for those who feel their choice isn't represented by the other answer options.
We're having the kids that are in the wedding and nursing infants. Our family kids are "grown up" and no one has kids of their own yet. Our friends have 50-75 kids... our venue and budget can't fit that.
I'm with KLP just the kids that are in the wedding. However my son, who's will be three and walking me down the aisle is not going to be at my reception.
We had approximately 20 kids a the wedding and with our venue any kid under 6 was free and not a part of the minimum count. The kids 6 and older helped us to get as close as possible to the venue minimum since we fell short but that wasn't the reason we invited them, that is how it turned out.
Surprisingly, we had no disruptions and all the kids had a great time. It probably helped that I had a kid's activity table which many took advantage of, even the teenagers. I am glad that I included them.
Just the flower girl (although I don't have high hopes for my 2 year old niece making it down the aisle...) and nursing infants. That's it. I love kids but there's just waaaaay too many in FI's family to allow it (30 extra people age 4 and under? No thank you!)
No. Well, there will be some teenagers there (two of my cousins will be 19, one will be 17, and one will be 15) but nobody younger than that.
Like I said in the other thread, our decision not to invite kids was purely financial. If we let one friend bring their kids then we have to let everyone bring their kids and there are too many kids for us to afford that.
I just checked back in with the thread - so it looks like about 2/3 of us are inviting at least the family kids (if not friends' kids also).
Interesting, thanks for the votes and replies!
We're having three toddlers because they are all out-of-state friends' children. Besides them, no children invited (but we don't have any children in our families anyway-just other friends). I don't think anybody will care, because they all know these are out-of-state friends and aren't able to get a babysitter like locals can.
the only children at our wedding will be my fi's two nephews, my 5-year-old sister, and then two girls I nanny-ed since they were born and got really close to. Otherwise, we can't afford the extra cousins, random-people's-kids!
No kids. It was pretty much a non-issue deciding on adults only as there are only four or five couples invited that have young children and we aren't close with any of the kids and we will not be upset if they decide not to attend because it's adults only.
we're having kids, but there are fewer than 10 on our guest list, and i think only 2 will even come, so it wasn't worth the drama of figuring out whether or not to leave them out! plus, our venue/caterer has a lower price for their meals
both my fiance and i aren't really "kid people" so we decided to do an adult-only wedding. we just put a tab on our wedding website telling people of a babysitting service that comes to hotels and wrote a paragraph about how it's an adult-only night. i feel like some people might be put off, but others might appreciate having a night with their husband or wife without having to chase after their kids the whole time.
I'm inviting kids, but I think there will be few to none there. It is a semi-destination wedding, so everyone is at least driving several hours to get there, and the location is more B&B and wine tasting than family friendly vacation.
We're having kids at our wedding -- although parents can also choose to leave their kids with a babysitter, if they want to have an adult night out. We're leaving the decision up to them.
However, my sister is hosting an adults-only bridal shower for me (it's tea in a small private room at a restaurant, so it didn't really seem kid-appropriate). We are now having all kinds of issues with enforcing the no-kids policy with FI's mom and step-family. Not sure why they don't get that "no kids" means NO kids.
Our situation is a little unique. There will be children at the ceremony but none at the reception. We have actually hired a sitter and have a seperate suite for the children to be in (reception is at a hotel). Our wedding ceremony begins at 8pm and concludes at 2am, on New Year's eve, just totally inappropriate for children to b running around.
Absolutely. Couldn't imagine not inviting kids, and in our families, weddings are events that include the entire family.
Absolutely inviting kids. I can remember two weddings from when I was a kid. The first was as a 10 year old. I remember watching the bride, and being in awe of her the whole night, especially when she danced all night long with us (or at least it seemed like all night long) The second I was 16 ( so less of a kid) but it was the first time I really felt the emotion of a wedding and teared up when I saw the bride.
Knowing how awesome it was for me as a kid to experience and be in awe of the bride and how fun it was, I can't wait to have all my kidlettes around to dance the night away with me and my girls :)
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I thought it would be interesting to see actual numbers for how many of us are planning to invite kids vs. not, since it's a topic that comes up pretty often.