Post # 1
Hello fellow bees, I am writing this because I am concerned that I may not like my wedding photos when I look back on them in the future. The reason I feel this way are for 2 reasons, 1. I am about 25lbs heavier than I was in high school, which I feel I looked my best, and therefore I feel a little too “thick” to look stunning on my wedding day! I also have very small breasts so I won’t have the wow look in the upper part! I know that a corset can suck in my gut and bring up and out my breasts, but I am still afraid that it will not look the way I want it too. and reason number 2, I don’t think I like my dress very much. Its pretty but I don’t think it looks like “my” dress, or flatters “me” very well. I know once I get it altered it will fit better and hopefully look better, but it isn’t the gown I wanted! These 2 reason’s make me wonder if i’ll even like looking at my photo’s in the future, so i am asking if anyone else ran into this problem or is going through this now, or am I just being a weirdo? Any advice, greatly appreciated! Thank you very much!
Post # 3
@[email protected]: honestly, most people are now 25 pounds heavier than they were in high school! i’m flat as a board too, but i think the cut of my dress makes the chest area flattering and hell, they can always sew in cups or you can get chicken cutlets. everyone has hangups about how they look, don’t be hard on yourself. you’re getting married to someone who loves you just as you are. :] if you’re having dress regret, just sift through the hundreds of dress regret posts on here! it’s really common to have second thoughts, if you want some input on that, you can always post a picture of you in your dress. :]
Post # 4
@elliestan: thank you, once I get it altered I will post a pic, right now its too big and goes straight down from breast to hips with no “curve” like a square so it looks bad…I know its common to have buyers remorse or whatever, I guess I just feel worse because the dress I bought I actually bought online through a china wholesale company who takes a picture of a dress you like, gets your measurements and makes it to your exact measurements and makes the dress you want. However, the dress did not look exactly like the dress i wanted and it was too big, even though i gave exact measurements. So basically I didn’t “try on” the dress and like it before I bought it, and I can’t return it! Thank you for the advice though
Post # 5
I was all worried about how i looked when I was young but when I got older I looked at old photos and couldn’t believe how great I looked!
My daughter got a Lit-Chrome photo which was a digital picture output onto film. We actually used photoshop to help it a little. The Lit-Chrome has a frame that’s about 1/2 inch thick with lights in it. My husband keeps it at work.
Post # 6
After a very sudden period of weight gain, I was diagnosed with PCOS and insulin resistance this year…it’s almost impossible for me to lose weight lately (no matter WHAT i do — and i was a division I college athlete so i have a pretty high tolerance for exercise), and that really bums me out because I just don’t feel that I look my best at this weight, at all. It’s easy for me to get emotional about because your wedding day is supposed to be a day when you feel young and fit and vibrant, you know? I have spent a lot of time getting emotional, and here are the things that have helped me keep it under control lately:
* It’s not 1902…it’s not like this is the only portrait of us that will exist for our grandchildren to remember us by. I’ve met many married women who say that their favorite, most frame-worthy pictures came sometime after their wedding day, so it’s also not necessarily the day of your life where you’ll feel most beautiful or perfect.
* Even though I personally don’t feel I look my best at this weight, we recently got engagement photos taken and I just got them back this week. They came out so well! I mean, some of them show off something i’m self-conscious about, but they don’t all have to be winners. There are many that i’m really happy with, and not just with in the “…for this weight” sense. And it only takes one good picture for you to have a keepsake to cherish about the day. Surely you will have a few pictures you love. If pictures concern you, I would practice a little in front of a digital camera because good posture makes all the difference and knowing what angles work for you at your current size can make all the difference for your pictures.
* My (happily married!) cousin called me the other day and said that when she was getting close to her wedding day, she had all these crazy rules for herself (using whitestrips every day, trying to get her triceps in shape, etc etc etc) that in the end she had to let go because she was driving herself crazy amid all the other planning chaos. She was a beautiful bride and I thing what really came through was that she had just let herself be happy, you know? We are all our own harshest critics. And like my cousin said, the important thing is to let yourself be happy because you’re getting married to the love of your life — having the perfect wedding doesn’t promise you any more successful of a marriage (and sometimes it works the other way if you’re prioritizing wrong), so who even really cares?
Obviously, we care…but it’s helpful to me at least to repeat that mantra. I may not be in the shape of my life for our wedding, but I’m going to do my best to be the happiest bride ever…and if i can free myself from the stressing about the things that are probably not going to change in the next three weeks and give the photographer some real smiles to work with.
I’m sure you will look gorgeous!
Post # 7
I’d be the first to admit I don’t have the healthiest self image. I can rip myself apart better than anyone. But,,,,,,,,,,,,,,I felt beautiful on my wedding day. The dress, the makeup, the jewelry, the AMAZING MAN at the end of the aisle. And weird thing is, when I look at the pictures I feel the same way. I don’t see my sausage arms or my thick waist. I see happiness and fun. For some reason the wedding pictures held onto the amazing feeling of the day. I hope the same for you.