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5 years ago my parents moved from our hometown-while I was in college.  I lived at their house for a total of 6 weeks and now visit during holidays and weekend trips when possible.

I moved to a new city a year and a half ago-where my fiance and I both currently live.  We decided to have the wedding here for numerous reasons (central location for drivers, bigger airport, easier/cheaper travel to honeymoon, ease of planning, more vendors).  However, in my parent's minds, it's the Bride's family who is responsible for hosting everyone and our city is "more expensive."  They agreed to let us get married in our town-but it's coming with a fight, and tears, every time we talk.

My parents are now saying they don't understand why I chose my current town.  They think it's my fiance who is forcing me into the decision-and now they are starting to question our relationship and the "control" he has over me. 

A part of me just wants to give into them and get married in their hometown-but I don't know if I'll truly be any happier if that happens.  All I know is that I can't take 9 months of what I'm dealing with now.  It's sad when my fiance has told me that he can count the days I haven't cried since our engagement began on one hand!

Please tell me I'm not alone on this!  Any insight out there?? 

I've had a similar situation, but almost in reverse. My mom wanted us to get married where we live now, rather than where both my fiance and I grew up and where she lives still. After listing the reasoning behind it (expense was one of them, principle was another), and I had done research on vendors near where I grew up. After not finding a suitable venue for our price, we relocated the wedding to south Florida, where fiances mom lives. Well mom got rippin' pissed about having a destination wedding, despite her wanting me to have a wedding where I live now which would be a destination wedding for most guests. She questioned our relationship (out of the blue...we'd been together for years, he asked her permission to ask me to marry him) and said the line about "controling you" just as yours said to you. Come down to it, it had to do with a lack of communication rather than the location, and even though we are paying for the party, mom felt slighted not even being asked her opinion on anything. Best thing you can do is try to let her know your reasoning in whatever way you can. Sometimes the 'lay down the law' idea isnt the best way to deal with parents that have it in their head that they know what's best.

Thanks everyone!  It's always good to know when you aren't alone in some of these things.

I'm happy to report that they have finally come around and I finally get the feeling from them that they are happy for me-which I was beginning to doubt!