Post # 1
I’m feeling really sad. Ever since I was a little girl, I dreamed of my perfect day, and my perfect dress featured heavily in this.
However, I have been to THREE dress stores and have had no wow moment yet. I found two dresses in each store. Of these six dresses: one made my friend cry; one looked very flattering in a photo, but not ‘special’ enough; one seemed good, but again not ‘special’ enough; and another two seemed to flatter, but didn’t ‘wow’ me.
Then there is the fact that none of the dresses have all the elements that I want in my perfect dress: a deep v-neck, thick straps, fitted a-line with pickups. One of the biggest criteria is that the dress needs to be one where I can wear a *proper* bra. I have enormous breasts that are unfortunately out of proportion to my frame. Yet, having to buy a dress that has room for a proper bra makes it even harder.
I must have tried on about 30 dresses so far and am starting to get really upset. I feel like I’ll never find the one.
It also isn’t helping that stores are so mean about letting me take photos!! As a result, my friend has had to take photos covertly on her phone and it’s totally not the same. In the one store where she got a chance to take proper photos it really helped…
Anyone else going through this? Anyone got a happy story of going to like 10 bridal stores and finally finding the one?
BTW, I have been wowed by dresses I’ve bought for things like dances and balls, so I feel that I should be wowed by my wedding dress!
Post # 4
i have big boobs.too. im working out so hopefully they shrink…i feel your pain but sadly i have no other input
Post # 5
You’re not always going to have a “WOW” moment, but you should keep looking and find a dress you love. I’d suggest trying some of the bigger chain stores like David’s or Alfred Angelo where they have a ton of dresses and let you take pictures. Smaller boutiques can be annoying…I had a really bad experience at the first one I went to & felt really hopeless. I found a dress at the 2nd but then had to switch cause they stopped making it. The whole process was draining for me, but it all worked out in the end. Don’t give up!!
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Post # 7
I found myself in a very similar situation; I tried on a TON of dresses, different styles, materials, prices, etc and never found anything I was in love with. I felt like I would have to settle for something that was just okay. FINALLY at the 6th shop, I found something I couldn’t stop smiling in, and did not want to take off.
Don’t give up. And my advice is to try shopping by yourself once or twice. Not having the pressure of everyone else’s opinions made a HUGE difference for me.
Post # 8
You will have it. You will.
I also have huge boobs and Ive never worn a bra with any corset dress Ive worn. Ive never had too…..not sure if you like corset backs or not. Any dress I get will either have one or Im getting one put it specifically so I dont have to wear a bra lol
Post # 9
I never had that WOW OMG moment! I knew my Divina was for me when I tried it on though. Can you post some pictures so we can see what you do or do not like? We may be able to point you in a different direction or help you find THE dress 🙂
Post # 10
I didn’t have a “wow” moment either when I found my wedding dress, there was no crying involved but I did however smile a lot. 🙂 Maybe you should sit down and do some research online and see what styles you like, write down what your ideal wedding dress looks like, what it doesn’t look like, and have this ready when you go look at dresses again. I think if you have a better idea of what you are looking for then you might have more fun shopping and have that moment when you know you found the dress. Good luck! And hope you find your dress and say “yes” to the dress! Happy planning!
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2015 - Diplomat Country Club
@Bainise2013: it took me 9 stores more than 60 dress. I love my dress but it’snot in the colorI wanted but so far I’m ok with thay. everyoneis different. dont worry you will find your dress do someresearchand be open minded 🙂 the dress you mightlove might be something totally different than you have in mind
Post # 12
I definitely can sympathize with your frustration.
Although some brides seem to have figures that will allow them to look fabulous in just about any and every style of dress, some of us have/had much more of a challenge in finding a dress that not only accommodates our figures but also appeals to our idea of beauty.
As a plus-sized bride with a large bust measurement, I found dress shopping to be quite disheartening. Rather than being torn by having to choose from among several stunning gowns that I loved, I literally purchased the first gown that I liked, after having to squeeze my way into size-10 samples of unzipped ball gowns and A-lines dresses.
Unfortunately, even when my dress arrived in my size, it still didn’t accommodate my larger bust in a manner that I found to be flattering. By then, there was no time (not to mention the budget considerations involved) for me to even consider finding another dress.
Post # 13
I feel your pain!!!! I went to every dress store in my city TWICE (a few months apart) and still couldn’t find “the one” I was sooo disheartened and upset. I booked in a dress maker, went to see her and discuss what I wanted Etc, was all set to go, then came across a dress online that I loved. Rang the store, they’d just gotten it in. Literally. 2 months from my weddin I brought the store sample of it. (too late to order new but sample had only been worm twice, me and someone else )
so I cancelled the dressmaker and I have my dream dress. Moral of the story is u will find a dress even if its a month out from the wedding!!!!!! And if not, book a dressmaker just in case! Always Options. Stay positive and don’t settle for one u sorta like cos u won’t be happy and I refused to do that , and I’m so glad now!!!!!!!
Post # 14
If all else fails, you could consider having a custom dress made by Jasmine’s Bridal Shop, Dressilyme, etc. That might be the way to go if nothing you’re seeing in the stores fits what you imagined.
Post # 15
My boobs never ever shrink! Even when I was underweight, they were still a DD. I kid you not!
True re: wow. I don’t expect to cry, but I would at least like to love my dress. I don’t live in the US, so it is all boutiques in my country. There are no chain stores here at all.
Thank you for these stories. They have given me hope! The thing is, it has always taken me forever to find dresses for special occasions. I have a history of trying like 50 dresses to find 1. So why did I think this would be any different? Sigh..
I get what you are saying, but I’ve never looked good in strapless dresses with strapless bras. My bust measures 41 inches and my back measures 32, so my breasts really are massive compared to my frame. Are your boobs really big too?
I took some pictures, but they are on my phone as they had to be taken furtively. Grr…. I have to buy a memory card tomorrow and then I can upload them here for you all to look at.
Sadly, my dream dresses do not seem to suit me. I *love* pickups, but they tend to only be in ball gowns and these drown me. The shopping has helped me narrow down more what I want anyway, so maybe that will help.
I’m sorry that your dress did not work out so well. I really sympathise because all of the samples I have tried have fitted at my waist and hips, yet never fitted my bust. 🙁
Man, that was lucky!!!
I’d find it stressful to get it made as trying on dresses is making all the difference!
Can anyone tell me the difference between fit and flare, trumpet and mermaid? Also, I saw someone write that straps do not suit big boobed ladies. How can this be true? The most flattering dress I’ve tried so far has big thick straps and definitely makes my boobs look smaller. I know spaghetti straps would not be flattering, so is this perhaps what that person meant?
Post # 16
@Bainise2013: Im a 36/38H Cup now, when i was younger i was a 32G and didnt have issues with corsets… im tall, that may play a part in how i hold mine