Post # 1
I don’t know if I’ve watched too many wedding dress shows or heard from too many people that they KNEW when they found the dress. But when I went for my “real” dress day (I looked around before but this time my future MIL from across the country had flown in) I ended up crying – not happy tears – tears because I THOUGHT I liked a dress but I didn’t KNOW. It didn’t help that everyone else had a different favorite!
How about you guys? Did you KNOW as soon as you tried it on that it was THE one? Or should I be ok settling on a dress I “like” and think is just fine?
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
2015MrsZ: I went to the shop planning to buy another dress. But I wasn’t confident enough to order it without trying it on again and the shop didn’t have a sample of it, so I ordered this other one totally unexpectedly, because there was a sale on. I never had a ~moment~, I approached it pretty clinically tbf.
Post # 3
2015MrsZ: I knew. I didn’t cry or anything but I never wanted to take it off. I tried on my other contender before saying yes, but after putting on The One, the other one didn’t even compare.
Post # 4
I’ll report back on Wednesday evening 😉
Mum says that you do know because you’re so comfortable and confident.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
Odds are, from what you said, that you care enough about other people’s opinions that you in fact will not KNOW, and will continue to question your decision. I think the only real way to try to avoid it is to try on every dress you can before you make a decision. My dress search took me to 80+ dresses at 12 shops over 3 states, so after i ordered, i could always consult logic, and not feelings, to tell me that i had made the best decision.
Post # 6
Logically there could be hundreds of dresses that you love and that look good on you .. which is why it’s so difficult to choose just one!
For me, it came down to choosing the best dress in my budget. I was lucky in that I had one “must have” (a train) and found a beautiful dress in my price range that i loved and had a train.
Is it the be all/end all of dresses? Nope. Is it the only dress I can imagine getting married in? No. But I do love it and can’t wait to wear it on my wedding day. I’m sure I’ll look back in 20 years and still be happy with my choice.
It’s so hard to be pragmatic about something that can be so emotional, especially when family and friends are often expecting an emotional reaction. But sometimes being logical, decisive and confident in your choices will save you a lot of stress in the long run.
Best of luck with your decision!
Post # 7
I knew. I had to try on 10+ other dresses to be sure…. But nothing compared to the one I loved 🙂
Post # 8
I never really had a moment. I had tried on a bunch of dresses and even said yes to one but when I went back in the room I called my mother over and was like “I can’t do it” lol. So we left. In the end I walked away from every shop dressless but there was only one dress that I could actually remember what it looked like. I went back again and ended up saying yes! I kept waiting for that say yes to the dress moment that never happened but I’m still happy with my dress and have no regrets
Post # 9
- Wedding: December 2014 - Norton Country Club
I didn’t have the crying, “Oh, this is it!!!” dress moment… I tried on many dresses and went with the one I liked the most and kept comparing the others to. (“I like this dress, but that OTHER dress had more of what I like.) My mother was upset that I didn’t do the TLC “say yes to the dress” moment, but I’m really happy with what I chose.
Post # 10
2015MrsZ: I knew the dress was the one I wanted, but it was a “Wow. I look and feel great.” No crying, no “OMG I FOUND THE ONE.” I tried on one more dress after that and told myself I couldn’t go dress shopping anymore. I hated dress shopping, but I have never ever regretted my dress.
Post # 11
2015MrsZ: I did. I cried. So did my mom and FMIL lol. It was the first store I went to and I just wanted to quench my curiosity and go to my second appt, so I did. There was a contender, but when I left the second store, the only thing I wanted to do was go back to DB and put it back on! I purchased that day.
Post # 12
I think the whole “The one” when it comes to a dress is a myth for a lot of people.
There is ONE person you want to spend the rest of your life with (hopefully). With dresses, your goal should be finding a dress you love and want to get married in, not finding this mythical “the one.”
I went to quite a few stores (probably 7), and found a dress that I absolutely loved. There was nothing I wanted to change about it. I was excited about the idea of getting married in it. And it fit into my budget.
I absolutely love my dress, and can’t wait for FI to see me in it. I know that I picked the right dress to get married in, and have zero dress regret. But I didn’t have a “this is it” moment, and I think a lot of people would agree.
I will say that I spoke to my grandfather after buying the dress, and he told me that my mother had sent him pics of a few dresses I’d tried on. When he heard I bought a dress he asked if I “picked the right one” and she said yes. Hearing that my grandfather had felt that it was “the right one” definitely made me tear up a little bit!
Post # 13
I didn’t KNOW. I have never been the type of person who KNOWS. I’m always seeing a hundred different possibilities, options, etc.
For me, I bought a dress that I thought was beautiful, flattered me, was comfortable, and was affordable. There were several that fit that category, and I just kind of picked one.
I think it helps if you tell yourself that you may not have a bolt-of-lighting realization moment where you just KNOW, you know? It’s ok if you don’t have that. (Btw, I never had dress regret, fwiw.)
Post # 14
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
I tried on a gorgeous dress and knew I loved it. I still purchased the I’m OK with this dress for $550 less. No regrets. Now I’m looking for a new dress because we changed our wedding date and I had weight loss surgery. Thankfully I can afford another dress.
Post # 15
I had a moment with my dress. I was like “omg I love it” but then my mom didn’t have an amazing reaction so that kind of killed it. But after trying on other dresses it was the only one where I could remember how it looked after leaving. There were others that I liked in the moment but didn’t stick with me. Ultimately I bought my dress and my mom says she liked it much better once it was fitted (or maybe she just said that to make me feel better) and on the day I felt really beautiful and my husband loved it. Sometimes I look back at the pictures and wonder if I should have gone with a different style but then I remember that I love so many styles of wedding dresses that I will probably always be second guessing myself! I decided I need to go to more black tie affairs so I can wear more formal gowns lol