Post # 1
Hive…Help! Is it really true that when you find your dress you will “just know”?
I keep hearing that you will find “Her” and know “She’s the One”…and, well, it’s just not happening for me! I keep finding dresses that I like. And nothing is helping me narrow down the decision…everything is in about the same price range…friends and family have a variety of opinions…and I feel beautiful in each one!
How do you get yourself to JUST CHOOSE?
I am afraid I am just going to let the clock run until I have no more time, then have to close my eyes and spin and wear whatever one I point to when I open my eyes….
What other way can I do this?
Post # 3
For me, lots of different factors made my dress “THE ONE”.. cost, style, fit (it had to be flattering! I can’t tell you how many dresses I like but just aren’t for my body type!)
Hope you find the one!
Post # 4
Don’t buy into the “you’ll just know” or what I like to call “say yes to the dress” mentality. It’s not like that for everyone. To be honest, it’s probably like that for about half of all people. It has to do with how you make decisions. So don’t feel like you’re failing at picking a dress, that is probably adding on to the anxiety.
Also, pick your favorites. Take the time to see them by yourself (sans friends, family, etc) and picture your wedding day in your head….which dress is it? What style?
Post # 5
Yes you will simply know!
Post # 6
Hey, I’m a July bride too. I didn’t get a ‘this is the one’ moment. I felt that way about 3 dresses or so. I just picked one after getting tired of everyone telling me I was running out of time. I love the dress though. But I didn’t get an ‘aha’ moment.
Post # 7
HA! When I put on my gown and walked out and saw it in the mirror, and the looks on my sisters faces, I think we all knew- this was The Dress. I think that you still have a few weeks, I would keep looking if you have not found anything yet.
Post # 8
I didn’t have the awe inspiring moment and it took me a few minutes to decided that my dress was the dress.
Post # 9
I’m in your same boat. It’s all looking the same to me. I’m looking at pictures of myself in the dresses, that seems to help. And be sure you’ve tried on all sorts of styles- even ones you don’t think you’ll like.
Post # 10
I got the chills when the lady was lacing me up. Don’t listen to anyone but yourself. Everyone around me was oooing and ahhing over the last 1 I tried on before mine. I knew it was close but it wasn’t the 1. Make sure you try on everything, not just what you think you want. My dress is nothing like what I anticipated.
I tried on like 50 dresses and there were plenty I liked, very few I hated and only 1 I loved.
Post # 11
Ok, thanks everyone… you all are helping me calm down. I was beginning to panic thinking I’m running out of time and I’m failing at this whole dress thing!
Post # 12
I absolutely did not know it was the one or have some moment. With every dress I asked myself do you like this one more or less than your favorite? If it was no, I took it off the list. If it was yes, the previous favorite was off the list. I wasn’t going to get married in my least favorite but I also didnt have an expectation of this perfect made for me dream dress. I just decided I liked it, it looked good, I liked it the most of all the dresses I tried and I was done.
Post # 13
I don’t believe in that mystical feeling of “the one” dress. To believe in “the one” means you’d have to believe that there was some wedding dress you were “meant” to wear due to some sort of decision that took place outside yourself at some point in the past. IMO, that’s absurd for more reasons than I care to go into here.
There are a lot of dresses in the world. Some of them are going to look hideous on you. Most are going to look fair-to-middlin’. A few are going to look great, but chances are you won’t hear angels singing. Probably because they have better things to do 🙂
At the end of the day, it’s just a (very expensive) piece of cloth. In another life, even the most beautiful wedding dress cloth could have ended up as a blouse, a tablecloth, or a scarf. It has no inherent meaning or superpowers. The only meaning it has is the meaning you choose to assign to it. How’s that for liberating?
Post # 14
Just pick a dress that you think is awesome. Don’t wait on a religious experience, because you might not have one. You will most likely, however, find at least one really awesome dress.
Post # 15
@AmuseMeMusically: THANK YOU! you remind me why the very first thing I did when I got engaged was to go to the library to check out books about what the heck I was getting into…the first book I picked was the Off Beat Bride: Tafetta-Free Alternatives for Independent Brides! Nonetheless, I somehow got sucked into the Say-Yes-to-the-Dress CULTure 😉
I think what got me into a tizzy was going to the bridal shops and working with the consultants who have an agenda (to make a sale) and to meet that agenda, they fuel the fantasy of the religious dress-finding experience (as they bring out more and more expensive dresses that must be ordered NOW or it will be too late, lol!)
Thanks for sharing your strategies/decision making processes…. you are helping me return to reality!
Post # 16
I’d also recommend Bridal Bargains and One Perfect Day to help you resist the insanity.