Well, I'm a waiting bee who has been told it will be "within the year"! He asked me what sort of ring I'd like and I said I thought I'd rather have a healing stone than a diamond... So we looked at prasiolite rings (pale green! So pretty!) but now, in a fit of utter materialism, I'm wondering if it will be 'sparkly' enough.... I've never been about the bling, but an engagement ring sorta demands a bit at least... So what I'm really asking is have any of you ever regretted having a gemstone instead of a diamond? Or vice versa, did you regret going for a diamond??
I don't regret whatever my DH picked out for me. also, brace yourself for the avalanche of pictures from Bees of their gorgeous non-diamond rings! I've seen so many around here, especially blue sapphires ... ahhh *envy*
@Stormchild: I've always been pretty obsessed w. diamonds so I'd never get anything other than a diamond for an engagement ring.
If you've never particularly liked diamonds, I don't see why you'd regret not having one.
If you're unsure, maybe you should go to a jewelry shop and try on some diamonds just to see. If you find that you fall in love with something in particular, let you SO know so that he can pick something you'll love :)
Here is the beauty of this situation... if down the line you do want a diamond you can get one. Doesnt have to replace what you have now but you can get an anniversary ring, RHR or just a I want this ring!
It could still have some diamonds like these:
http://www.etsy.com/listing/94514186/engagement-ring-2-carat-prehnite-ring
http://www.etsy.com/listing/96256510/prasiolite-and-diamond-statement-ring-in
http://www.etsy.com/listing/98441470/flush-mount-prasiolite-right-hand-ring
@Stormchild: Hi, I never regretted not having a diamond because I love sapphires, my FI chose a sapphire and diamond cluster so I could have both and therefore definitely no regrets.
Personally I think the green gemstone is beautiful. Go for it!
I was also worried about this when I was choosing between tanzanite and diamond but I ultimately stuck with my initial tanzanite decision. The diamonds were so expensive and I never really liked diamonds to begin with. I felt like it didn't make sense to go with a diamond just because it was traditional.
I've never regretted my choice.
I definitely didn't want a gemstone that wasn't as sparkly as a diamond. As much as I loved the rose gold and peach sapphire look, I told my FI that he should get me the peachy-pink moissanite instead and get it set in rose gold bc I want it to sparkle. The only other stone I would have considered was the Amora Gem/moissanite because of the sparkle. He ended up tricking me entirely and getting me a diamond after all and I am SO PLEASED. The diamond is gorgeous and it sparkles like nothing I have ever seen before. It's amazing. The fire and sparkle is out of control, especially in the sun! I don't think you'll regret anything you end up getting because you're going to love it no matter what - every time you look at it, you'll remember his face when he got down on one knee and proposed.
Preface: If you have to ask if you will regret not asking for a diamond, the answer is likely "yes."
My engagement ring is a moissanite, and I don't regret it for a minute! More sparkly than diamond, after all :)
I love my purple color change sapphire. No regrets the cut is good so it sparkles. I never wanted a diamond center stone, I love color. I'm also a little offbeat and 100% ok with it. Love my ring more every day and some of that love is because we went with what my initial wants were.
I agree with the above user that if you have to ask yourself that question, the answer is yes, you will likely regret not asking for a diamond. I inititally wanted something different for an engagement ring, like a sapphire or emerald, but ultimately decided on the diamond because I wanted my ring to be the nicest thing I own, and that to me, was a diamond. You can always get a gemstone for your anniversary, bday etc . Go for the diamond! :D
I know 100% I want a NATURAL blue sapphire w/ Diamond accent stone. I have never liked all diamond rings. I think I can see the flaws more in a diamond, they are so overpriced, there is too much white...meh meh meh. I like the blue....
There are so many absolutely gorgeous ring possibilities out there, with diamonds and colored gemstones being two of those beautiful options. As long as finances permit, and you and your FI agree, you should choose what you really want to have.
The only advice I will give you is this: If YOU think that, deep down, you will have any regret at all by NOT getting a diamond e-ring, then I think you should get a diamond e-ring. It likely will be easier for you slowly to add other, beautiful, gemstone rings to your collection over the years than it will be to find the significant funds required for a good diamond later. Financial priorities tend to shift after a couple is married, and it becomes more difficult to funnel significant amounts of money into something less "practical" such as an expensive diamond, when there are so many other significant expenses (houses, closing costs, furniture, children, kids activities, family vacations, cars, college funds for the kids, retirement funds, etc.) So, if you truly want a diamond, now may be the best time for you to get it.
I have diamond and although I do not regret it, if I were faced with replacement due to loss or something I would go with something else.
A diamond halo around anything is super sparkly... I think if you love that stone I'd look at it with a halo if you want the sparkle.
One concern I'd have is the hardness of the stone you love. When I was designing my ring I wanted to throw our birthstones into the ring. I was strongly advised not to use them because they are peridot and emerald and peridot is only a 6.5 hardness and the emerald 7.5 and I was told I will likely shatter in everyday wear. That being said, I just checked into your prasiolite and it's 6.5 - 7.0 which is almost the same issue.
Are you hard on your jewelry? will it always come off when there is risk of bumping? Will the constant removal result in losing your ring?
I don't think I'm a person that could expect to get decades of wear out of a softer gem but there are people that can.
I have a black diamond, granted still a diamond, but definately not white, and I LOVE it!
I have a diamond now and had one for my first diamond before my upgrade. Do I regret the first diamond? NO! Do I regret the second one? Yeah I do a bit!
I wish I was privy to this board when my hubby upgraded cause I would have gotten a Moissy! I just love them and hate the fact that my husband spent that much money on my upgrade ring when we could have gotten something 1/4 the price and it is just as beautiful.
I hope that helps. My only advice for going non diamond is the durability. One of my fav rings on here is a citrine and the bee that owns it just scratched it and I know she is so sad about it. So try and go durable for the stone so you wont be disappointed later on if something happens to it.
Good luck!
I didn't want a diamond and I made that clear. I told him if he was going to get me an e-ring I would suggest he look at either sapphires, rubies, or emeralds. I already had a ruby ring and he didn't want to get me another, his sister (who married about 25 years ago) has an emerald e-ring and he didn't want to get me anything like her's, so he chose a beautiful sapphire ring with diamond accents. I'll never regret it.
So I originally asked for pink morganite or sapphire (the latter being my birthstone). However, dear mommy kept telling me that "every girl deserves a diamond", and FH also insisted the same thing for me...soooo I have a diamond ring.
Would I care if it were something else? No. Why? Because I can get other rings if I feel like it. This is just one ring. Albeit a pretty important one, it is still a piece of jewlery nonetheless.
If you don't place unnecessary value on things, the word "regret" will be the last thing on your mind when he proposes.
I don't necessarily agree with some PPs that say if you aren't sure, you should get a diamond. It depends on how strong those feelings are and your personality. After deciding on a sapphire, I had some momentary fears that I'd regret it (because I am a HORRIBLY indesicive person)... well, a year after getting my e-ring, I can't anticipate ever wanting another.
And now, to contribute the obligatory pic:
told you, OP, that the Bees won't disappoint with beautiful non-diamond rings! beautiful, ladies!
I don't regret not having a diamond, but if I ever feel like I need a diamond ring somewhere down the line, I'll be sure to let DH know! There's no reason you can't get one in the future.
Personally, I am a girl who is ALL ABOUT THE DIAMONDS when it comes to an E-Ring (partly because I am a Jewellery lover, so have several rings already that are gemstones or gemstones & diamonds combos)
As the other Bees have said, there are some very gorgeous interpretations out there of what makes an E-Ring (Diamonds alone - Gemstones - Gemstones with Diamonds - and about a million other things)
If you are on the fence...
I gotta say that the Prasolite Rings with Diamonds that lynashag: posted in Reply # 5 look totally dreamy !!
@lynashag: OMG those rings are to die for! i just love gemstone rings and think they're so unique!
I want either the new gray moissanite, minty green moissanite, green beryl, or blue green tourmaline...
I received a diamond and I adore it like nothing else, but I believe I would have loved another natural gemstone too, as long as it was durable enough and I didn't look like I was trying to pass it off as a diamond. I would only have regretted a diamond simulant. I would not have felt good about it.
I would 100% regret not getting a diamond and it seems like you will too. You can always get a colored stone for a RHR.
I've seen so many gorgeous gemstone engagement rings...I actually wonder if I would have been just as happy with one of those. I saw a stunning prasiolite (green amethyst) ring today that took my breath away.
Here it is! http://instagram.com/p/STOwneFS6z/
I dont think you'd regret it! Plus you can get a diamond anniversary ring at a later time if it is something that you decide later on that you want.
@Stormchild: i love gemstone E rings but my FH choose a diamond. im very happy with his decision and the ring he got me is stunning i love my E ring.
@KatNewby: i can see the green tint everyone speaks of with the mossie setting.
We were going to go with a non-diamond, but he proposed with his great grandmother's diamond ring.
I didn't want yellow gold or a diamond. I didn't think I liked either. The ring is a diamond solitaire with a yellow gold band. As soon as he opened the box, I absolutely fell in love with it. It was completely opposite from what I thought I'd want, but when I saw it, I knew it was perfect.
Basically, I can't see how you'll regret it. It will be a token of your engagement to the man you love, which will make it the perfect ring :)
If you are having doubts about how you'll feel in the long run, go for the diamond! It doesn't have to be extravagant. Then get the gemstone as a right hand ring.
I would have regretted not asking for a diamond. Why? Because, like every other stone on the planet, a diamond has a unique look that can't be replicated...to me...at least not yet. So, now I have a diamond and I don't regret what we've purchased but we'll be upgrading to the Amora Gem once that hits the U.S. market. I also bought a lab sapphire ring so I can have my pop of color from time to time.
The point is - if you want a diamond, get a diamond. Don't try to overthink it. If you feel like you'll regret not going for it then just do it. :) But if you'll regret not getting a gemstone then do that. Either way, this doesn't have to be the last ring you ever own. :)
Thank you everyone, sage advice. Gorgeous pics too :) :) And yes, if it's SO giving it to me then the word "regret" is completely irrelevant! X
@KatNewby: Ouch, are you sure she meant it in a mean kinda way? I thought moissies were known for shooting lots of pretty colors.
@throughthebarricades: Indeed. If the wearer says her stone is not intended to be a diamond simulant, I don't see how it's an insult to say that it's green toned.
@throughthebarricades: I think that's about as likely as somebody saying they can see an inclusion in your diamond and you taking it as a compliment.
Green in moissanite is to inclusions in diamonds. They are basically NEVER cited as positive attributes.
@KatNewby: I just figured maybe she noticed the green since the original post was about prasiolite and they're green stones so she was thinking along those lines.
I am curious to see a moissy in person I have to say! I love all things that sparkle :)
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