Well, I’m a waiting bee who has been told it will be “within the year”! He asked me what sort of ring I’d like and I said I thought I’d rather have a healing stone than a diamond… So we looked at prasiolite rings (pale green! So pretty!) but now, in a fit of utter materialism, I’m wondering if it will be ‘sparkly’ enough…. I’ve never been about the bling, but an engagement ring sorta demands a bit at least… So what I’m really asking is have any of you ever regretted having a gemstone instead of a diamond? Or vice versa, did you regret going for a diamond??
I don’t regret whatever my DH picked out for me. also, brace yourself for the avalanche of pictures from Bees of their gorgeous non-diamond rings! I’ve seen so many around here, especially blue sapphires … ahhh *envy*
@Stormchild: I’ve always been pretty obsessed w. diamonds so I’d never get anything other than a diamond for an engagement ring.
If you’ve never particularly liked diamonds, I don’t see why you’d regret not having one.
If you’re unsure, maybe you should go to a jewelry shop and try on some diamonds just to see. If you find that you fall in love with something in particular, let you SO know so that he can pick something you’ll love
Here is the beauty of this situation… if down the line you do want a diamond you can get one. Doesnt have to replace what you have now but you can get an anniversary ring, RHR or just a I want this ring!
@Stormchild: Hi, I never regretted not having a diamond because I love sapphires, my FI chose a sapphire and diamond cluster so I could have both and therefore definitely no regrets.
Personally I think the green gemstone is beautiful. Go for it!
I was also worried about this when I was choosing between tanzanite and diamond but I ultimately stuck with my initial tanzanite decision. The diamonds were so expensive and I never really liked diamonds to begin with. I felt like it didn’t make sense to go with a diamond just because it was traditional.
I’ve never regretted my choice.
I definitely didn’t want a gemstone that wasn’t as sparkly as a diamond. As much as I loved the rose gold and peach sapphire look, I told my FI that he should get me the peachy-pink moissanite instead and get it set in rose gold bc I want it to sparkle. The only other stone I would have considered was the Amora Gem/moissanite because of the sparkle. He ended up tricking me entirely and getting me a diamond after all and I am SO PLEASED. The diamond is gorgeous and it sparkles like nothing I have ever seen before. It’s amazing. The fire and sparkle is out of control, especially in the sun! I don’t think you’ll regret anything you end up getting because you’re going to love it no matter what – every time you look at it, you’ll remember his face when he got down on one knee and proposed.
Preface: If you have to ask if you will regret not asking for a diamond, the answer is likely “yes.”
My engagement ring is a moissanite, and I don’t regret it for a minute! More sparkly than diamond, after all
I love my purple color change sapphire. No regrets the cut is good so it sparkles. I never wanted a diamond center stone, I love color. I’m also a little offbeat and 100% ok with it. Love my ring more every day and some of that love is because we went with what my initial wants were.
@lolaswann: never heard of that stone but the pic of it is gorgeous!
I agree with the above user that if you have to ask yourself that question, the answer is yes, you will likely regret not asking for a diamond. I inititally wanted something different for an engagement ring, like a sapphire or emerald, but ultimately decided on the diamond because I wanted my ring to be the nicest thing I own, and that to me, was a diamond. You can always get a gemstone for your anniversary, bday etc . Go for the diamond!
I know 100% I want a NATURAL blue sapphire w/ Diamond accent stone. I have never liked all diamond rings. I think I can see the flaws more in a diamond, they are so overpriced, there is too much white…meh meh meh. I like the blue….
There are so many absolutely gorgeous ring possibilities out there, with diamonds and colored gemstones being two of those beautiful options. As long as finances permit, and you and your FI agree, you should choose what you really want to have.
The only advice I will give you is this: If YOU think that, deep down, you will have any regret at all by NOT getting a diamond e-ring, then I think you should get a diamond e-ring. It likely will be easier for you slowly to add other, beautiful, gemstone rings to your collection over the years than it will be to find the significant funds required for a good diamond later. Financial priorities tend to shift after a couple is married, and it becomes more difficult to funnel significant amounts of money into something less “practical” such as an expensive diamond, when there are so many other significant expenses (houses, closing costs, furniture, children, kids activities, family vacations, cars, college funds for the kids, retirement funds, etc.) So, if you truly want a diamond, now may be the best time for you to get it.
I have diamond and although I do not regret it, if I were faced with replacement due to loss or something I would go with something else.
A diamond halo around anything is super sparkly… I think if you love that stone I’d look at it with a halo if you want the sparkle.
One concern I’d have is the hardness of the stone you love. When I was designing my ring I wanted to throw our birthstones into the ring. I was strongly advised not to use them because they are peridot and emerald and peridot is only a 6.5 hardness and the emerald 7.5 and I was told I will likely shatter in everyday wear. That being said, I just checked into your prasiolite and it’s 6.5 – 7.0 which is almost the same issue.
Are you hard on your jewelry? will it always come off when there is risk of bumping? Will the constant removal result in losing your ring?
I don’t think I’m a person that could expect to get decades of wear out of a softer gem but there are people that can.