(Closed) Will I regret this?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should I let my brother walk me down the aisle
    Yes, he's family we gotta deal with it. : (21 votes)
    54 %
    No, he's been very rude, walk alone. : (18 votes)
    46 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would talk to your brother before making this decision.  Let him know how this has made you feel and that you’re now contemplating walking alone because of it.

    Sorry he isn’t being more supportive.  It’s hard enough not having your father involved and now he isn’t showing you any respect either.  I would talk to him about it though.

    Post # 4
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    167 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I agree, I think you should talk to him one last time about it and let him know you might be going it alone. He has left it late and i’m sorry he’s upsetting you, I hope he goes so he can walk you down the isle!

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    It sounds like it is time for a brothernapping.  Go pick him up under false pretenses and force him to buy a suit. Just kidding, though it is how I handle my brother.

    I am very sorry he is being this inconsiderate.  Could his wife maybe help you?

    Post # 5
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    Bee Keeper

    I would have my brother walk me down the aisle despite him being the ass that he is. It is a great family moment before you enter a new family union with your husband. Drag him out of bed one day and go!

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Honestly… I think you’d regret it.  Maybe in a few months you’ll look back and think, “Dang, I looked way better walking alone than walking with my lazy brother who is *still* hanging out in a t-shirt in the corner!” but in a few years you’ll think, “I wish I had walked with my family.” 

    Talk to him again, let him know you’re thinking about walking alone and maybe get his wife to help goad him into it.  If nothing else… ask for his measurements and buy the suit on your own.  Sucks for him if it doesn’t fit right!

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m sure its making you crazy, but try to back off.  At least one of our GM didn’t buy his suit until the week of the wedding.  Also, any higher end menswear store should be able to turn around the alterations in one day.  If he shows up at your wedding without a suit, then maybe you can be upset.  But either way, would you not want him to walk you down the ailse because of his suit?  I’m sure he has another suit in his closet anyways.  

    Post # 8
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    263 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    You absolutely have to tell him the way it’s making you feel. You can nag a man all you want, but mostly what they need to hear is that it is truly upsetting you, not just irritating you. 

    I’m sorry about all of this, it sounds horrible. But really, pictures are not as important as your relationship with your brother. You could call and let him know that the two of you are going to the store together and set a time? Maybe he needs a little more, um authority?

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I am so sorry you’re dealing with this stress! Most of the guys I know would wait this long, though, so I agree with PP’s–remember that your relationship is most important and either trust that he’ll get his act together or take him on a suit shopping field trip.  good luck!

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Why dont you tell him to give you the money and then go out with one of his old suits and just buy him a suit of the same size. Take matters into your own hands literally.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I would remind your brother that you would be honored if he would walk you down the aisle.  Then remind him that the wedding is a week away and he needs to buy his suit. 

    If he doesn’t have a suit 2 days before the wedding, go down the aisle yourself.  You tried. 

    Don’t stress about it.  It will all be fine the day of.

    Post # 12
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    5894 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Let your badly dressed brother walk down the ailse. Family has to come before Aesthetics.

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    He needs to get a suit now!  He will need time to get it altered, unless there is a place that will alter it on the spot.  

    You have received some good advice.  I say “brothernap” him.  Meet him for coffee, lunch, whatever but go to the store before you eat.  And/or tell him how you feel and if he doesn’t have a suit in time you he will be responsible for your walking down the aisle by yourself.  (Do you think a little guilt trip might help?)

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Why is it your job to make sure he gets his suit? If he shows up the day of the wedding dressed in the correct suit and prepared to walk you down the aisle, that’s the only thing that matters, right? I would not stress about this. If it’s important to him, he’ll make it happen. If not, then be prepared to walk down by yourself.

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