Post # 1
Since my dad was never around I thought it would be a good idea for my older Brother to walk me down the aisle.
Ive been trying endlessly to get him to his suit appointment. He is a total procrastinator leaves everything to the last minute.
Since March Ive been asking him to PLEASE schedule his fitting. Ive made myself available, so that I can go w him. We always end the convo in good like he’s going the next day.
Well its LITERALLY 1 week till the wedding. And he still hasnt bought his suit.
I feel so disrespected. Its not a money issue, he has the money, he’s just so fucking lazy and it drives me crazy!!! His wife, daughters, have their outfits but he’s still Lollygagging around. I mean he LITERALLY would walk by an apparel store and it wont register to him.
Ive decided Im gonna walk down the aisle by myself. Me and my FI are the ones paying for it, Ive basically done all the work by myself, so I think Im gonna walk in alone.
I am angry that my brother cant even see something that is so personal and special to me like my Wedding day, and make it seem like its just some fucking birthday party he can slap on some khakis and shirt on.
So my question is this….
Suck it up, and let him walk me down, I wont regret it when I see the pics years later.
Go with my gut, and go down the aisle by myself.
Post # 3
I would talk to your brother before making this decision. Let him know how this has made you feel and that you’re now contemplating walking alone because of it.
Sorry he isn’t being more supportive. It’s hard enough not having your father involved and now he isn’t showing you any respect either. I would talk to him about it though.
Post # 4
I agree, I think you should talk to him one last time about it and let him know you might be going it alone. He has left it late and i’m sorry he’s upsetting you, I hope he goes so he can walk you down the isle!
Post # 5
It sounds like it is time for a brothernapping. Go pick him up under false pretenses and force him to buy a suit. Just kidding, though it is how I handle my brother.
I am very sorry he is being this inconsiderate. Could his wife maybe help you?
Post # 5
I would have my brother walk me down the aisle despite him being the ass that he is. It is a great family moment before you enter a new family union with your husband. Drag him out of bed one day and go!
Post # 6
Honestly… I think you’d regret it. Maybe in a few months you’ll look back and think, “Dang, I looked way better walking alone than walking with my lazy brother who is *still* hanging out in a t-shirt in the corner!” but in a few years you’ll think, “I wish I had walked with my family.”
Talk to him again, let him know you’re thinking about walking alone and maybe get his wife to help goad him into it. If nothing else… ask for his measurements and buy the suit on your own. Sucks for him if it doesn’t fit right!
Post # 7
I’m sure its making you crazy, but try to back off. At least one of our GM didn’t buy his suit until the week of the wedding. Also, any higher end menswear store should be able to turn around the alterations in one day. If he shows up at your wedding without a suit, then maybe you can be upset. But either way, would you not want him to walk you down the ailse because of his suit? I’m sure he has another suit in his closet anyways.
Post # 8
You absolutely have to tell him the way it’s making you feel. You can nag a man all you want, but mostly what they need to hear is that it is truly upsetting you, not just irritating you.
I’m sorry about all of this, it sounds horrible. But really, pictures are not as important as your relationship with your brother. You could call and let him know that the two of you are going to the store together and set a time? Maybe he needs a little more, um authority?
Post # 9
I am so sorry you’re dealing with this stress! Most of the guys I know would wait this long, though, so I agree with PP’s–remember that your relationship is most important and either trust that he’ll get his act together or take him on a suit shopping field trip. good luck!
Post # 10
Why dont you tell him to give you the money and then go out with one of his old suits and just buy him a suit of the same size. Take matters into your own hands literally.
Post # 11
I would remind your brother that you would be honored if he would walk you down the aisle. Then remind him that the wedding is a week away and he needs to buy his suit.
If he doesn’t have a suit 2 days before the wedding, go down the aisle yourself. You tried.
Don’t stress about it. It will all be fine the day of.
Post # 12
Let your badly dressed brother walk down the ailse. Family has to come before Aesthetics.
Post # 13
He needs to get a suit now! He will need time to get it altered, unless there is a place that will alter it on the spot.
You have received some good advice. I say “brothernap” him. Meet him for coffee, lunch, whatever but go to the store before you eat. And/or tell him how you feel and if he doesn’t have a suit in time you he will be responsible for your walking down the aisle by yourself. (Do you think a little guilt trip might help?)
Post # 14
Why is it your job to make sure he gets his suit? If he shows up the day of the wedding dressed in the correct suit and prepared to walk you down the aisle, that’s the only thing that matters, right? I would not stress about this. If it’s important to him, he’ll make it happen. If not, then be prepared to walk down by yourself.
Post # 15
Thanks for advice ladies.
I have tried almost everything! Ive set up dates, Ive come over to his house, Ive tired to get his size.
But he always cancels on me last minute, or stands me up.
He owns no suits! so even using an old suit wont matter.
Good point about his wife, but if she didnt help by now, she never will.
I dont want to nag him, but the no nagging has gotten me no where.
I guess Ill sleep on it.